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Monday, May 23. 2011Doctors' errors and disagreementsWe linked a a paper in Scientific American a while back, Health Care Myth Busters: Is There a High Degree of Scientific Certainty in Modern Medicine?
Overall, physicians are said to get it wrong around 50% of the time. I suppose that is possible. I get it wrong on a regular basis. Dr. DB says he trusts no-one in medicine, including himself. More from the Scientific American article:
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Sunday, May 22. 2011Disability casesI regularly get calls for consultations from people seeking disability for emotional complaints. If I fill out the lengthy state form, it's pretty much guaranteed that they will get some sorts of government checks forever. I tell them to call somebody else. I won't do it. In the charity clinic at which I volunteer my time we have a blind fellow, a guy with no legs, and a paranoid schizophrenic lady working. They all get the admin work done. At my supermarket, my bags are packed by a gal with Down's. She is a sweetie. The calls I get about this are, like, I have bad Bipolar or bad OCD, or bad drug addiction, or chronic depression with fibromyalgia. Being a Psychiatrist, I fortunately do not get calls from the people who say they can't work because their back hurts. Whose doesn't? Giving up on a productive life means giving up on life and giving up on dignity. A colleague of mine will not work with anybody on any form of disability. His view is "If they have given up hope for themselves, why should I bother?" I tell him it's all about getting the money, not about hope. Scamming the system, or reverting to dependency. This guy gets SSI,
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Saturday, May 21. 2011One electron short of a watt? Phony illnessesIn Sweden, you can get disability for this: Meet the woman allergic to electricity. I doubt it's a deliberate scam. I suspect she is not insane, but probably half-crazy. It's easy to prove: just do some blind testing of her. It reminds me of Multiple Chemical Sensitivity (a fascinating article). People in the US can retire on this non-existent syndrome. The shame is that quacks are around to reinforce this sort of nonsense:
Lyme Disease (which is a real and readily-treatable infection) presents another interesting situation in which crocks and quackery abounds.
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Thursday, May 19. 2011Wiring, not chemistryI have always contended that the most severe mental disorders, eg Autism and Schizophrenia, were wiring problems rather than chemical problems. Finally, it is becoming a major field of study: The miswired brain. In my view, we all have different wiring, and we all have some loose wires and short circuits and sparking, but some loose wires cause more problems than others. Some will just make you more interesting, but some will burn your house down.
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Wednesday, May 18. 2011People desire new sexual and romantic experiencesBetween Arnold and The French Great Seducer, I am reading plenty of baloney about sex. Things about power as an aphrodisiac, things about "primitive men," that old feminist meme that it's about power and not sex, all sorts of nonsense. Truth is, most people - men and women - have some or much desire for new sexual and/or romantic experiences. Novelty is exciting, flirting is fun, and seduction is exciting as hell. The French understand that side of the story. The other side of the story has to do with consequences: The effects on family life, existing relationships, kids, spiritual life, conscience, financial condition and even legal issues. In other words, the grown-up side of the story. Politicians and the rich and famous have no monopoly on adultery or promiscuity. They are common as dirt among both men and women of all social stations and, unless one tends to form "open" and "Don't ask, don't tell" relationships (which a surprising number of people do these days), they otherwise usually leave a trail of misery, shame, guilt, anger, distrust, and destruction. Everybody knows that, but some people don't worry about consequences very much. They are too much devoted to "What I want to do" and too quickly forget that "Feelings aren't facts," "Character counts," and life is not meant to be free of struggle, conflict, disappointment, and frustration. I advise patients that, if they are determined to have affairs or want to "go out," that they file for divorce first. And oh, I know - things do happen though. Having a trusting relationship with decent communication, commitment, and decent or creative sex is the best prevention but sometimes a few drinks at the hotel bar at a convention far away can undo even the best marriages. One of the saddest things I see in my work are couples, after affairs or "indiscretions." Often, they begin to talk, to open up with each other, to become closer, more honest, and even to become better friends. However, it's too late to salvage the specialness that the relationship might have had. Something innocent dies whether they decide to stay together or not. A few links on the topic: Miss Attila: Power, and Its Privileges Why Powerful Men (Like Arnold) Cheat How to Tell If Your Partner Is Cheating Pic is from the wonderful classic, The Seven Year Itch
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Monday, May 16. 2011People are asking me about this guy's "problem"People are asking me about the IMF head's "problem". If all the stories and rumors are true, he doesn't have a personal psychological problem (except his new personal political and legal problems). My guess would be that the issue is that people like him have no problem. In other words, he just does whatever he feels like and doesn't give a damn because he gets away with it and his associates and his wife don't seem to care all that much. To diagnose that (eg Impulse Disorder, or Sex Addiction) is simply to excuse, or dignify, the sort of bad behavior that most people decide, often with great struggle, to limit to their fantasy lives. Everybody has illicit ideas and desires, whether consciously or unconsciously. That's why we are given the gift of the Ten Commandments. Now that he has supposedly (as the gossip says) had his fun raping and/or seducing God knows how many attractive women and girls, and finally got caught, watch him now act the victim and seek help for a psychological problem. They always do, after they get caught. Clinton too. From here: The charges are roiling France, where Mr. Strauss-Kahn was the favorite to be the Socialist nominee for President next year and was even leading in the polls against Nicolas Sarkozy. The French are legendary for nonchalance toward the sexual appetites of their politicians, and they sniffed at Americans who disapproved of Bill Clinton when he lied under oath about sex. But we doubt even the French will be blasé about assaulting a hotel chamber maid. Addendum, from France: "Politicians ... enjoy a particular tolerance on this subject," he wrote. "Part of the shock comes also from the unusual scene, until now unthinkable here: police arresting a top-level politician on a matter of morals."
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Wednesday, May 11. 2011The 15-minute hour
A handful of pills and a few minutes of canned shrinkology is not enough to tend to a soul in turmoil and in pain. Take my word for it. People are complicated. For most people with troubles, sooner or later they have to face themselves, their flaws, and their self-defeating or destructive tendencies with honesty, and it is best done in the patient company of a decent soul who knows a thing or two about it all, and knows how to dig just deep enough to try to get to the heart of things; to gently drive a wedge through the devilish defenses to address the real "issues." Some of us, or many of us, the Old Guard, are still here if you want to try to talk from the heart. Life itself is difficult enough, and having to struggle with one's own self just makes it harder for all. Friday, May 6. 2011Creative genius and mental illnessIt's an old topic, but always of interest. A Conversation With Dr Richard Kogan. Many people, rightly or wrongly and for better or worse, reject Psychiatric medicines which can be remarkably helpful things at times, but also emotion-blunting at times. Fortunately, it's a free country. Wednesday, May 4. 2011Hoarding fat cellsOur post about hoarders the other day had me thinking about overeating. Overeating is hoarding fat cells. Once you create new fat cells, you can never get rid of them. Odd and dysfunctional behavioral symptoms are all ways of dealing with uncomfortable internal states. Most people have at least one character defect or wiring defect which creates some sort of discomfort or uneasiness. For some people, food is a center of existence and thus becomes a way of coping with being oneself, fending off boredom and a sense of emptiness - all of the cliches. In my line of work, we term this solution "orality." It works, in prosperous societies, and harms no-one but oneself. For starters, this lady needs a physical job and needs to get out of the house. Her life is too easy, undemanding, and too dull. She'll end up on Disability, if she isn't already. Her son seems like a good kid, and wisely doesn't try to fix her. She has given up on life by taking on the victim role - she is a "victim of a food addiction."
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Sunday, May 1. 2011Cool wedding, hot marital sex, and some thoughts about What Husbands WantSomebody referred to the royal wedding as "chick crack." I think it was. I keep hearing about the hats, and I have learned over the years that hats and shoes are crack to females even though guys rarely notice them. Here are some good clips from the pageant. Speaking of weddings, a horny Insty linked this piece on hot marital sex. Daily sounds pretty good to me. When I was younger, I was a twice-daily guy, or at least a would-be twice-daily guy. However, back then, one time did not mean just "once." It doesn't take much to keep a guy happily married: lots of sex fun, decent and abundant meals made with love if not with expertise, letting him have his alone time, no nagging about his many flaws, some interesting conversation, no inquiring about his "feelings," and otherwise just generally appreciating his unique wonderfulness. Create a beautiful life for him to live in, and make home a soft, loving haven without the negativity and hassles of life out there. That's all we ask for, ladies. Without those things, our lives aren't very pleasant. The problem is that the Mrs. is now imagining herself at age 24, marrying Prince William or Duke William or whoever he is. He's a military pilot, too, and most of us guys are neither prince nor military pilot. However, being a hard-working, honest, decent, horny, God-fearing, self-reliant American citizen ought to be enough for any lucky woman.
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Friday, April 29. 2011Are gentlemen into porn? Etc.I can tell you that some certainly are, some could care less, and some find it an abomination. Porn, recreational sex, prostitution, rape, illicit seduction, perversions, etc. have been going on since there have been humans. That's a fact. Humans are endowed with the wackiest sex drives and wackiest imaginations of all animals and, depending on conditions and circumstances, not always the most mature or honorable behavior. But what about the ladies? A teen gal recently told me that somebody said to her, in the bathroom after a frat party, "I am so pissed that I didn't get any dick tonight." How times have changed. Or have they? I have looked at internet porn. I prefer love. Is porn bad? Pride and Prejudice and Porn HoardersI suppose that the voyeuristic TV show Hoarders has raised the visibility of hoarding. It's one of those OCD-type of things that fades from totally insane to fairly normal. If what you like to hoard is money, then you're just thrifty or stingy. If you like to hoard "collectible" items, then you're a collector: Art, rocks, knives, rugs, guns, pinball machines, etc. If you can't get rid of stuff you don't really need to the point that it interferes with life, it gets to be a problem. Come to think of it, hoarding money can have the same effect. I cannot embed this bit. If interested, there are more of these on YouTube - like this one: We can't have people over to our house:
Friday, April 15. 2011Sorta Like Where's Waldo, Only Not ReallyToday's fun activity is called "Spot The Ukelele." A ukelele has been cleverly hidden in each of the following tableaus. See if you can spot them.
It's pretty tough, I know. It's as if the videographer was deliberately trying to make it hard for us. I think I missed a few. I'm going to try again. Good luck!
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Sunday, April 10. 2011The ethics of romantic and sexual hedonismRules of Misbehavior - Dan Savage, the brilliant and foul-mouthed sex columnist, has become one of the most important ethicists in America. Are we screwed? The man is not Ann Landers. Holding sexual pleasures and adventure as the centerpiece of life, he seems to have come up with a simple ethic: Let them know what you are doing before you do it. Good luck with that. Tuesday, March 29. 2011A diagnosis I frequently miss: Antisocial Personality traitsAntisocial Personality. I miss it all the time. I am posting this in the hope that this will help deter me from missing it in the future. AVI claims you can tell criminals by their faces, but I am not talking about serious criminals. I am talking about the effective manipulators, seducers, schemers, and deceivers and not the obvious violent and stupid people who end up in jails. I get burned by such people on a regular basis. I like to think it's because I tend to think the best of people, but it's really probably my naivete. Not all people with antisocial traits are axe-murderers. Most are ordinary liars, users, con-artists, self-servers, etc., and they often do not realize themselves that they are off base and living in their own amoral reality with all of their rationalizations for their behavior. The problem with the personality disorders is that people with them think they are normal. Sociopathy is a very common personality disorder, and often associated with glibness and a sort of disarming appeal that many people fall for. Yes, everybody lies sometimes. I am not talking about that. I am talking about deceit and conniving as a way of life. Politics, for an example. I always get suspicious when they call me "Doc" at first. I take it as an intrusive presumption of intimacy which I have not invited. Do not call your physician "Doc," except on the golf course. "Doctor" is OK. The only real cure is religion, but that is only if, and after, they have somehow come to realize how off-base they are in their take on life, their relative indifference to others, and their self-centeredness. In recent years, we have learned that Antisocial Personality traits derive as much from upbringing as from genetics. I think we wanted to believe it was all genetic. How it all works, I do not understand. All I know is to Beware, because these people will turn around and hurt you without thinking twice about it.
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Tuesday, March 22. 2011Are we "Condemned to Joy"?Bruckner subtitles his essay in City Journal: The Western cult of happiness is a mirthless enterprise. It's a short history of the idea of "happiness." One quote:
Readers know that, much as I value whatever joy and contentment come my way, I find "happiness" difficult to define and, furthermore, do not view it as a particularly meaningful or important goal of life as if is often defined. For example, if performing painful or sacrificial duties is what is satisfying to you, then how can you construct a universal definition of "happiness" when the word may mean "ease and comfort" to another person? Thursday, March 17. 2011More on the pseudo-scientism of mental healthExcellent post by Dr. Sheurich, Interesting Times for Psychiatrists. Yes. It used to be that Psychiatrists were the only ones who would talk to a distressed person with some depth of understanding. Nowadays, everybody can be a "therapist," and the "New, Improved" Psychiatrists don't want to get to know who you are. They want a symptom for the right pill. I'm with 1 Boring Old Man:
In my view, all docs should treat people, not diagnoses and not symptoms. People aren't "cases" - not even to good surgeons and anesthesiologists. No two "cases" are the same. Medicine is a humanistic, humanitarian art as much as it is science, and people are too complicated for simple formulations - unless they are bleeding out in the ER or some such. As I read the medical literature, most people don't even take their prescribed medicines. I take note that the current head of the American Psychiatric Association, Dr. Carol Bernstein, has problems with the DSM model. So do I. I have some hope for it too, but believe it to be of limited utility. It's largely pseudo-scientific, and pseudo-certain. "Sex Addiction"? Give me a break. As 1 Boring Old Man says, "Don't mistake the pointing finger for the moon."
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Wednesday, March 9. 2011Treat the Patient, Not the CT ScanI would add, "Don't treat a test result." I have seen that end badly many times. I wrote yesterday about how Psychiatry is tending towards treating symptoms rather than people. Perhaps it is a general tendency in medicine today to retreat from the personal to the technological. See Treat the Patient, Not the CT Scan. Medical care is not science. It is applied science - and an art. No checklist of symptoms, blood tests, and CT scans can sum up what is ailing an individual human, whether physically or mentally. It must be clear by now that the dehumanizing trend in Medicine is something that I deplore. Good docs have to be more than good technicians who follow consensus protocols. More on that in a letter to the New York Times here.
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Tuesday, March 8. 2011Psychiatrists who don't want to talk to youNo, Virginia, there is not a little pill to fix everything that ails your heart and soul. It's the new fad, however. Your soul isn't troubled: you just have a little chemistry problem. Better living through chemistry! In the New York Times, Talk Doesn’t Pay, So Psychiatry Turns Instead to Drug Therapy. It's not just about money. It's more complicated than that, but it's all very sad, in my opinion. I will not go into all of the reasons now other than to say that any doctor, Psychiatrist or not, who doesn't take the time to know you, and just wants to know your disease, isn't worth your time or your hard-earned money. OK, now I'm depressed by my profession. Where's the pill for that?
Thursday, March 3. 2011Do you want to have an affair?Read all about Ashley Madison:
Clever entrepreneurs, but I wonder how Biderman's Mom and Dad feel about his business. The natural desire for novelty and excitement in romance and sex is always with us. It takes a while to realize that the new one is, well, just another deeply flawed person too. And for them to realize the same about you. In my work, I tend to deal with the grim fallout of such adventures so I tend to be biased against acting on romantic temptations. Unlike the "sophisticated" Europeans and Asians, Americans tend to expect vows to be deadly serious. Especially church vows. I say "tend to." Here are some US infidelity stats. Relatively few American marriages survive adultery, and those that do have some permanent damage. Another data point, from this site: Medical field(s) with the highest divorce rate: Psychiatrists and marriage counselors. Ouch.
Monday, February 28. 2011Why men love boobsUnless you cover them up too much, men always glance at them. They can't help it. (Women often furtively glance at men's junk too.) Readers would be amused by the ways Psychologists and Psychoanalysts talk about men's curiousity about our boobs. Very deep and academic, things about mothers and breast-feeding and regressions and so forth. More to the point, I think, is this explanation from a guy that I found somewhere, and which I recently quoted in a talk:
Artwork is from Theo, who is dedicated to the appreciation of the stunningly-designed female format.
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Wednesday, February 23. 2011The luxury of offering old-fashioned medical careI know two Oncologists who are being pushed out of private practice by Medicare price controls. Why are they losing money on their practices? Medicare price controls on their services, despite the huge costs of chemotherapies. As I understand it, chemotherapy administered in a hospital can be charged at a higher rate than in an office. Thus it is viable for a hospital to take over a private practice and make money, or at least break even, on it. Interesting article on government medical care price controls: Confessions of a Price Controller. A quote:
Here's what I do: I teach, for free. I work at an urban charity clinic where I donate my time. (I have no idea whether, if, or how the clinic is compensated.) I have a private practice in which I adjust fees in order to consult anybody who is referred to me. I accept no insurance plans, no Medicare, no Medicaid. All I have to worry about is covering my monthly bills. Docs with high overheads - large staff, machinery, materials, high rents, high malpractice insurances, etc. do not have the luxury of operating as I do. I count myself as very fortunate to be able to have an old-fashioned practice. I can do whatever I chose to do, and I like it that way.
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Friday, February 18. 2011Shrink diagnoses1 Boring Old Man has a good post (one of a series) about current trends in Psychiatric diagnostics. One quote:
Because human nature is so variable and strange and complicated, and because my field is still in recovery from an overdose of "Biological Psychiatry" (in which the "mind" plays no role), many of our Experts have seen fit to categorize people according to their symptoms. Pursue sex too avidly? You got a sex addiction. Work too hard? You got OCD. Nervous about something? You got an Anxiety Disorder. Put stuff into your underpants at WalMart? You got Kleptomania. To my mind, these things are not diagnoses - they are what we term in Medicine "Chief Complaints" - we scribble "cc -". To my mind, surface emotional symptoms frequently say little about what is ailing or bothering a person, just as saying that a patient has a fever tells you little about what is wrong. It just tells you that something is wrong. I find it to be challenging, helpful, and always interesting to probe into what is really the matter rather than slapping a label on somebody. A label is not a diagnosis. I had my training from the best, and they certainly agree. (We need to re-post my series on diagnosis one of these days.) I'd like to go on at length about the topic of depth Psychology and Psychiatry vs. cheap and superficial Psychiatry, but I can't do that right now. Friday, February 4. 2011Is happiness a reasonable or worthy life goal?Seems to me that one must define the term, first. From the review of the book "Perpetual Euphoria" in the WSJ:
The reviewer concludes:
I could write about this topic for hours, and find some happiness - or pleasure - in doing so. But I won't. I have other things that need doing.
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Wednesday, February 2. 2011Where Psychiatry took a wrong turnPsychiatry made a wrong turn when it tried to turn its back on the heart and soul, and appeared to decide that it was better, or easier, or most cost-effective, or more "medical"-sounding, to view humans as bags of chemicals and containers of symptoms. In his "Reflections on Sacred Texts," the Boring Old Man sees it pretty much the way I see it (h/t to Dr. X). I have a similar aversion to the DSM. My "sacred text" is the individual with the problem. Most patients I see do not fit neatly into any box, and I do not try to squeeze them into one. The good doctors of most patient-oriented specialities - Internal Medicine, Family Practice, Surgery, etc. - seem to take more personal interest in understanding their patients and their lives than many "Biological Psychiatrists" do these days. Psychiatry spans a broad range of problems, from pure brain abnormalities to regular difficult life problems, with complicated mixtures being the most frequent. Fortunately for our patients, some us are still interested in getting to know them and in figuring out what ails them beyond their symptom checklist.
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