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Tuesday, April 28. 2009A few Modest Proposals for American medical care, plus Didn't your parents teach you that life is a bitch?The news mills are ginning up yet another medical crisis storm these days in an effort to pave the way for gummint medical care by the same good folks who run the DMV and the post office. They seem to imagine a problem with cost, access, and insurance. Maybe we are a nation of crybabies, because we have the best medical care in the world with which to pamper our so-called precious selves. It's time we got beyond that self-love, and cared about the Greater Good. I have a few simple, rational, Utilitarian solutions. Cost: Cost is driven by technology and modern pharmacology, cancer treatment, crocks (people obsessed with their health), gomers ("gomers go to ground"), and futile, guilt-driven end-of-life treatment for annoying old or sick relatives. The cost of American medical care can be dramatically reduced by forbidding all cancer treatment other than Oxycontin and at-home 10-gallon morphine pumps, all medical treatment for those over 57 (the children are our future!), all CT and MRI scans, all blood tests, and all medicines other than friendly, holistic, herbal organic ones. No more vaccinations - they cause Autism. No more antibiotics - everybody knows that they make people sick. Eliminate Dermatology (just stay out of the sun, people). Eliminate Opthalmology (bad eyesight is from masturbation - it's your own fault). Eliminate Psychiatry (mental illness is socio-political mind control). Eliminate Urology (do you want a #3 gauge tube stuck up your urethra?). Eliminate Surgery - it is physical assault on comatose victims. Eliminate Neurology - it's just nerves. Access: Doctors are like waterfront trade unions: they limit their numbers to keep their payments high enough to join country clubs, to buy boats, and to take vacations. My idea: anybody who gets a C or better in Organic Chem is automatically admitted to a government medical school. Lots of good, caring people are weak in math and chem and bio and stuff, but that's who we need more of. My medical school flunk-out rate was 18%: what a waste of talent. Plus there are too many Jews and Asians in medicine anyway, and too few people of color or of gender identity diversity. So, with this increase in the numbers of docs, fees could go down to $5 per office visit and the docs who don't like it can open dry cleaning shops, cigar shops and wine shops like they do in Canada. Insurance: Medical insurance is a dumb idea. Why expect your neighbor to pay your medical bills when they will be so low under my plan anyway? They will be cheaper than your garbage pick-up, your newspaper subscription, your cigarette costs, your car payment or your monthly payment for your big screen TV. (Did you ever notice how nobody complains about the cost of their TVs, computers, or Life Insurance?) Or just save your money if you want and die quietly without complaint, dude, and make space for the next generation. Too many people on the planet and, let's face it, life isn't all it's cracked up to be anyway. A vale of tears and toil, a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. What's the big deal about death? Didn't your parents teach you that life is a bitch?
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Friday, April 24. 2009I always thought so: Good is as good doesInteresting link by our News Junkie last night re people who think of themselves as "good." That link led to Ryan Sager's The Al Gore's Fraggin' Giant Mansion Effect. A quote:
Read the whole thing. I have too many reactions to this to post briefly, but my first thought was that I have seen this many times. (See Obama's Earth Day flights burn 9000 gallons of fuel.) The process goes far beyond Greenieism. Many people play tricks with themselves in order to have their cake and eat it too. The NJ summed it up perfectly: "They seem to think they get a pass because they're good." It reminds me of our recent QQQ from PJ O'Rourke: "Everybody wants to save the world but nobody wants to help Mom with the dishes." It's important to most people to view themselves as virtuous. Cheap and easy virtuousness (recycling, donating to charities, volunteering, serving on committees, etc) is often used by people, consciously or unconsciously, to excuse or to compensate for their sins and crimes (eg not reporting cash income, cutting corners, patronizing massage parlors, spreading gossip, lying, etc). In my view, honest people wrestle with sin rather than playing the "moral self-regulation" game. How many criminals have been described as "pillars of their community," "great guy, always kind and generous," "everybody loved him," "a great supporter of civic causes"? Lots of them. I am not talking about guilt-driven "conspicuous virtue" here, like the cheating guys who bring their wives roses - I am talking about the secret compromises people make internally so as not to mentally suffer from their feelings of sinfulness and hypocrisy. I could go on and on on this topic. More later, maybe. Photo: John Gotti, the "Dapper Don," once a pillar of his community of Howard Beach, Queens, NYC, generous donor to his church and kids' sports, and an avid recycler with a deeply caring interest in the always-Green trash-hauling and recycling biz.
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Friday, April 17. 2009Docs opt outI opted out of Medicare years ago. I felt morally torn about doing so, but finally my bookkeeper refused to do any more of their paperwork. That settled it. My compromise was to institute a generous sliding fee scale for Medicare-aged folks. (My general policy is to never decline a referred patient because of money.) From a young Doc, in the WSJ:
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Tuesday, April 14. 2009What are you good at? What does your personal graph look like?People vary enormously in their levels of life functioning, talents, and life-mastery, don't they? Nature confers variety - not equality - because variety is essential for a species to survive when circumstances change. You could make a graph of the people you meet by rating their functioning in various areas on a 0-10 scale:
...and so forth. Feel free to graph yourself on these items - but do not call me if you feel depressed afterwards. We are supposed to identify our weaknesses, and to work on them if we feel motivated to do so. Most of these qualities are subsumed under what we term "ego functions." (We shrinks use the term "ego" to refer to the tools we have to mediate between our "inner" selves and external reality, not the casual, non-technical meaning of "self-centeredness.") My well-exercised shrink brain tends to measure these things about people on autopilot, even when I try to turn it off. (I also "take my own inventory" frequently with pitiless honesty, and I have my own share of frailties.) Nevertheless, all of these factors feed into one's ability to construct a life in a free country. Yes, a life must be constructed like a building, but usually with changes along the way. Fortunately, the world offers things for almost every person to do - and in which to excel if they wish - regardless of how their unique graph maps out. It's generally the pattern of strengths and weaknesses that matters, not the overall "score." However, I can say, after many years of careful observation of humans, that the folks I have known with the highest overall scores have been military officers, physicians, ranchers, and investment bankers. Don't argue that with me - that's just my own limited life experience. Many of the most interesting people I have known have very high scores in some areas and very low ones in other areas. That might be part of what makes people interesting. Perfect scores would be the most boring person in the world. But that doesn't matter, because in America we all play the cards we are dealt, and we all get to make the most of what we have - and to try to develop where we are lacking if we want to, and we get to play out our hand in whatever way we chose, given the heavy constraints of mean old Mr. Harsh Reality (including the chance to write run-on sentences).
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Saturday, April 11. 2009My American IdolA repost from a couple of years ago - This is a real American story about a true American idol. It's also a story about home-town America, which is, sadly, a disappearing way of true community life. I met with an 83 year-old fellow the other day for a consultation. He was recovering from a heart attack from which he almost died ("I thought it was just a bad stomach ache but my wife didn't like the way I was sweating.") and a stent. His cardiologist felt he was depressed, as often happens after serious cardiac events, especially with men. He told me a little story, but first, a bit about him: Irish, retired policeman, living with his frail wife (a retired book-keeper) in the Boston suburb where he was born - same neighborhood and across the street from the house he grew up in (remembers horse-drawn fire engines down the block); daily Mass; in the church choir ("We sang at the Vatican in 1972 and we are proud of that."); plays trombone ("poorly") in his firehouse marching band; five attentive, devoted kids and 14 grandkids within twenty miles; does every charity thing he can find including Meals on Wheels (even though "I think I am older than most of the people I deliver to"); belongs to his local Vets organization; a WW2 Vet - a gunner in a B-26 Martin Marauder with the 320th Bomber Group of the 12th (Army) Air Force, in Italy: "When flak hit the airplane, it sounded like somebody shaking a bucket of gravel." Says "We weren't scared. We already knew we would die in this war to save Europe, and we were sort of OK with that, but we were damn well gonna get all of the bad guys we could, first. Heck, we were just kids, looking back now, and full of beans and bacon." His story: "I was at a wake of a friend a few weeks, ago, drinking and partying of course, and up comes somebody I knew from second grade at St. Anthony's. He says "You need to join our lunch group. We meet once a month at .... restaurant in the back room." I felt flattered to be invited, so I went. My God, I met folks I hadn't seen in years, all from the same home neighborhood - the --th Ward. About 25 guys, retired doctors, teachers, lawyers, mailmen, firemen, mostly moved out of my home parish but all still in town. Somehow lost track of them. A great joy, since so many friends still in my neighborhood have died. We took about 15 minutes to eat, and talked for two hours and had a few beers. I almost said we should meet once a week, but it wasn't my place as a newcomer. I need to stay active, Doctor, because my wife needs me. Doc, life is good, and I'd like to make a few more of these lunches before the good Lord takes me." God Bless America. And God bless him. No, he did not need me as a shrink: I need some more of what he's got: the true American spirit. One secret: we psychiatrists are more blessed by what we get from our patients than by what we have to give. Details altered just barely enough for confidentiality (not that he would mind, but he would be embarassed by admiration and attention) - but not the 320th BG - that is accurate.
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Thursday, April 9. 2009"Quality Care" and Docs with attitudeYesterday morning's NJ post on "Quality Care" from the WSJ was enlightening, and just gives me one more reason to stay away from Medicare (besides the fact that they pay me peanuts, and that their paperwork requirements are over my head and take more time than my patients take). I see how government "Quality Care" works: the academic medical experts take a vote, and that becomes "Quality Care." That's not medical care: that's government policy. Forget the individual patient and his or her unique situation, forget the Doc's experience and skills and insight, forget the Doc's judgement, forget the fact that academic Docs aren't always practical, forget that next week's new data will completely alter the information at hand. Just Follow The Rules and stay out of trouble. I have seen plenty of cases go bad in the hands of young Docs who strictly follow the rules. It's not a good example of that, but when I was a resident one of "the rules" of the time included strict limits on the use of pain-killers, even for terminal cancer patients. Didn't want them to become addicts, you know. They forgot that pain relief remains one of a handful of the greatest blessings medicine has bestowed on humanity (along with anesthesia, antibiotics - and Lexapro). One of the best things about seasoned physicians is that they are a cranky bunch who do not take orders, who think for themselves, who feel that rules are made to be broken, and who do not like to take crap from anybody - especially anybody in "authority". Your patient comes first, or you are nothing. There is a "House" inside every Doc. In most lines of work, you can't get away with that sort of attitude. When government gets involved in things, they tend to screw them up. The article's example of high blood sugars in the ICU was a perfect example. Even I, who have not cared for ICU patients for more than a decade, know that tight sugar control for critical patients is insane and dangerous. Not only that, but it doesn't matter: if the patient survives and gets healthy, a few days of higher sugars with a good margin of error will not have hurt them one darn bit. But I am a Doc with a practical mind. Expertise always has to be taken with a grain of salt, and government-emitted expertise with a tablespoon-full. I am not disparaging expertise, which I respect enormously. I just distrust the combination of expertise with power over others: anointed experts who want power instead of simply to educate give me the willies. Non-"experts" often have loads of common sense. We take an ancient oath, too. Ed. note: Somewhat related: Socialized medicine: A warning from across the pond
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Tuesday, April 7. 2009Diagnosis: A Screw Loose, plus a comment on RealityReaders know that I am always skeptical about labelling and diagnosing people with whom I have not sat and talked for quite a while. Every time a mass murderer goes on a rampage, though, we shrinks come out of the woodwork to opine. Our friend Shrinkwrapped discusses the Binghamton murders in terms of Narcissistic pathology. It's a good, clear description of pathological narcissism (we posted on the "Narcissism Epidemic" last week) but, in one way, I find it disappointing. Here's the problem: the world is full of pathological narcissists. Many of them are very successful in worldly terms (if unsuccessful in relationships). Most or all of them endure painful humiliations, failures, and disappointments in life (as does everybody - but narcissists are less resilient in the face of these things and are more likely to sink into rage or depression). Assuming that SW's speculative diagnosis is correct in this case, it still has no predictive power. Thus my speculative, highly professional diagnosis of killers - whether mass killers or not or whether narcissists or not - is that they have a screw loose. Everybody feels like killing somebody sometimes, but very few do (in Western civilization). SW did highlight something I had been thinking of writing about anyway. He says:
True (although I would not say "damaged." I would say developmentally delayed, or genetically retarded, or something. Also, I do not understand what a "self" is despite much study on the subject). The larger point is interesting to me. Everybody has psychological frailties and weaknesses. Everybody wants the external world to compensate for those - to patch those holes and gaps. We usually are able to find a way, to find a niche, to find supports we need (a devoted spouse is a good one - and so is some money) and, worst case, booze and drugs can paper over lots of cracks in our walls. Oftentimes, people are only made aware of their weaknesses when the external supports are removed. I have seen many people for consultation who I believed needed psychotherapy but whose world insulated them (or who arranged a life such that the world would insulated them) from the self-awareness and the discomfort. I never try to talk people into treatment: they need to feel the need and the inner disturbance to get help. If old Mr. Reality eventually gets through to them, I know they will come back. However, people with personality disorders are fairly well-protected from Mr. Reality: they live in worlds of their own imagination. Instead of finding a way to make the world work for them, they just invent a world that suits them - and live in it unless or until it unravels. Friday, April 3. 2009Besides the 10 Commandments...Daily rule #1 in life is to answer this question: What have you done today to make your spouse happy? Thursday, April 2. 2009Knowing and Yet Not Knowing, or Don't Wake Me From This Dream"We have to face facts." Do we? There is a common and normal human capacity to both know and not know something at the same time. Maybe it's politics or maybe some recent patients that got me thinking about the avoidance of reality - a maneuver which falls far short of the defence we call "denial" (which itself can also be entirely healthy at times, but often not). I notice this in myself. For example, I noticed that I have not opened my last 2 quarterly 401-k statements. I know it's ugly inside those envelopes, but I see that I have avoided facing the facts squarely. It's avoiding the sharp pain, while tolerating the dull, nagging pain in the back of my mind. Besides the sharp pain, it's also avoiding whatever difficult or impossible decisions might or should be made. I consider it to be a character flaw in myself - a weakness - but not a fatal one. Many of us dodge facing painful, pride-injuring, disappointing, or bias-challenging truths about ourselves or about reality and how reality works. I am in good company, but I do not approve of it. I am not referring to an unconscious defense mechanism like repression: I am referring to a conscious and deliberate maneuver, like the suspicious wife who refuses to check to see if her husband is really at another very late business dinner. A reality-ducking means of coping. We do not have a good term for this sort of thing in Psychiatry, although "suppression" comes close. There is a spectrum from psychotic denial and distortion (anorectics believing they look fat), to ordinary denial (I don't have a drinking problem, or I am not doing anything wrong), to repression (my brain won't permit me to think this unpleasant thought), to seeing but not believing (It just can't be!), to the sort of avoidance I am talking about (I know what is there, but refuse to look or listen because it will upset me), to the gold standard of bravely facing and dealing with facts, problems, and the limits of reality. As I say daily, Reality is the best but harshest teacher of all. She - or he - is one tough and ruthless SOB.
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Monday, March 30. 2009Is there a Narcissism epidemic?Slate says that Emily Yoffe is the author of What the Dog Did: Tales From a Formerly Reluctant Dog Owner. Her essay in Slate is What is narcissistic personality disorder, and why does everyone seem to have it? Not a bad essay for (and presumably by) a non-professional. Fact is, the whole subject is so complex that I haven't even tried to write about it: there would be so many "but"s and "if"s and "except"s in it that it would be dull reading. One quote from Yoffe's piece:
The link for the essay is above.
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Sunday, March 29. 2009A physician who uses her mania and her depressions
Harvard Medical School's Dr. Alice Flaherty
Saturday, March 28. 200930 minutes five times a weekThat's the latest cardiovascular recommendation for brisk aerobic exercise. (It used to be 20 minutes three times a week, but new data has changed that recommendation.) I have not asked whether 30 minutes of vigorous sex five times/week counts, but we hope it does.
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Tuesday, March 24. 2009Major Medical Insurance: Foolish not to buy itFor some today, and for just about everybody in the past, medical insurance was something everybody bought, just like life insurance or disability insurance, to cover extraordinary expenses. It is called Major Medical, and it is still readily available. Over the past 20-30 years, governments, businesses, and union contracts began expanding their coverage by reducing deductibles and covering more routine things. Medicare, of course, was the model for that. During the same time, costly medical technology and new drugs were developed in a near-miraculous way, mostly in the US. With those changes, folks began wanting "insurance" to cover their routine maintenance medical expenses instead of the things that would financially overwhelm them. When that shift was combined with the CYA style of medicine which results in $5000 work-ups for dizzy spells (fed by the ambulance-chasers), everybody expected everything. That isn't sustainable, and will never happen. Medical technology has grown to an amazing extent, but those machines are expensive. I have no idea what the folks in power are trying to plan for us, but I know it will be an entitlement disaster, filled with unintended consequences, that people would not be happy with. It will end up with politically-determined rationing. Our family bought Major Medical insurance many years ago. It cannot be cancelled. It's more important than a cool car. Why everybody does not do that when they are young and healthy is beyond me, because it would seem like the logical and prudent thing to do. Over the years, we have increased the deductible so that it is quite affordable, and we keep a money market savings account specifically for medical bills to the amount of the deductible. As I recall, we began with a $2000 annual deductible, and now we finally have a dirt-cheap $20,000 2-year deductible on the original policy. It does not cover any routine or preventive medical care, which is as I think it should be. Nobody owes me medical care, in my view, any more than anybody owes me auto insurance. We have kept this policy whether or not I or my husband had some form of insurance through work, because you never know how long you will want to keep a position - or when you will be let go. Off-topic: Around 30% of Medicare expenditures occur in the last year of life. In other words, on failing and terminal people. Interestingly and unsurprisingly, when docs hold end-of-life conversations with these patients (as we should), the costs go way down.
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Depression and the brainIf this new study is correct and replicated, I can only wonder why it took so long to notice such a simple thing. I have always suspected that most mental illnesses are due to hard wiring, not chemistry. The fact that medicine can help says nothing about their causes: it makes no more sense than it would to call headaches a Tylenol deficiency disorder. Given the complexity of the brain, miswiring is a common phenomenon and gives people plenty to cope with - in addition to the ordinary travails of life. The human brain is an ongoing experiment of nature.
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Wednesday, March 18. 2009Books about madnessFrom a review of three new books about the experience of madness, at New Atlantis:
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Just reading the review offers a little glimpse in to what the experience of going crazy is like, along with the agonies of feeling defective, alienated from others, and shamefully stigmatized. Friday, March 13. 2009Stem cells, religion, morality and politicsI assisted with an abortion one time in medical school, on my OB-Gyn rotation. I went to the bathroom afterwards, shook and sweated, and then puked my brains out. I refused to help with another abortion. Nobody minded. I delivered about 30 babies during that rotation. Scary if you get into a jam, but otherwise good fun. Knippenberg considers the embryonic stem cell issue (an issue about which I have no particularly strong opinion), and notes the contradiction between the amoral notion of "let science do science" and the political notion of "most people want this." I guess pols are experts at insulating their decision-making from morality and ethics. In my view, Utilitarianism, like "efficacy," is neither a moral nor an ethical posture. It's a cop-out. It's the easy way. From Yuval Levin's Obama's False Choice:
Ed. note: Krauthammer today: Morally unserious in the extreme
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Sunday, March 8. 2009I think China and Russia used to do thisIt's about the pathologizing of opinions you don't agree with. Mind you, I have no problem with ending an exasperating disputation with "You're nuts. I can't discuss this with you." But that's not a diagnosis. While I am fully aware of group and mass psychological themes, I only confer a diagnosis on those who pay me to do so. Even then, I often cannot give them a label because every person is unique. I have more science under my belt than 95% of the folks I encounter who dispute my skepticism about AGW. But, in the world of science, the only proper attitude towards anything is skepticism. That's how it works. "Proof" is usually very elusive. We have many theories, few truths, and no Truths. Brendan O'Neill at Spiked reports on the disease of Anthropogenic Global Warming Denial. One quote:
"Eco-psychologists"? May I conjecture that these people are nuts?
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Thursday, March 5. 2009Niceness and CompassionComments from Common Room:
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Friday, February 13. 2009James Q. Wilson on Genes and Politics - and AuthoritarianismI have heard employers and managers commonly remark that "so and so doesn't have the DNA for this job." It's well-known by now that many, if not most, temperaments, talents, personality traits and tendencies have a genetic foundation. With overdetermined things like political attitudes, one might expect those foundations to be obscured by life experience, education, and personal growth. But they aren't, entirely. Wilson discusses in City Journal. A side point he makes, which I feel is well-taken, in reference to Adorno's famous study of the authoritarian personality and Bouchard's further work on the topic. He says:
He gets it. I never understood the equation of "Right" with Libertarian/Conservatism either. His essay, The DNA of Politics, here. It is curious how Darwin, evolution, and inheritance is ignored by the rabid Lefties. Unless God is involved. The wacko Left is ever on the march.
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Thursday, February 12. 2009DarwinIt's the birthday of Charles Darwin. I'd like to highlight this very observant fellow's most original work, The Expressions of the Emotions in Man and Animal. That book has been a gold mine for students of human behavior, and is the foundation of sociobiology. Wednesday, February 11. 2009Better Red than Dead, Revisited, with MoslemsI will stick to my decision to avoid pathological labelling of those with whom I disagree. BUT I can never stop wondering that it is that causes people to become passive in the face of a threat to one's way of life - assuming it is meaningful. This is surely abnormal, because our species could never have survived with a "roll over and give up" instinct. In recent history, we have seen those who were reluctant to stand up to the Japanese, the Germans, the Russian Soviet empire, the North Vietnamese/Chinese - and now the Moslem assault, in its various forms, on the West. I did a post about Better Red Than Dead in the past, but I cannot find it in our archives. Is it a psychological issue (eg masochism, which implies a sexual excitement in being dominated - or an enacted suicidal impulse), is it plain cowardice, is it a kind of hatred for one's own culture or nation? Or is it really just a unicorn and rainbow dreaminess about life (which I tend to view as a psychological defence based in denial of the hard and often cruel reality that people pursue their interests)? I have seem much of the latter, especially in women and in young men who haven't really worked yet. Cases in point: Brits to Pakistanis: Please don't hurt us David Thompson: Assume the position
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Friday, February 6. 2009We don't know what we are doingPsychoanalysis has known for 100 years that our conscious minds aren't in charge most of the time, and writers and grandmothers have known it forever. Indeed, we humans flatter ourselves when we imagine that they are. For one example, Overcoming Bias discusses how social cues guide our decision making beneath our conscious awareness:
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Friday, January 30. 2009What am I bad at?Around every New Year's Day, or, if I procrastinate, sometime before the end of January, I tend to do a little personal inventory. I know what I am pretty good at: my work, raising kids, being a wife, being a friend, skiing, shooting, tennis, golf, sailing, reading, and a few other things too. But I force myself to take time to focus on the things I am bad at. I wonder whether they are amenable to improvement, or whether they are hopeless. As one grows older, more flaws and weaknesses move from the "Maybe Improveable" into the "Hopeless" category. The reality of one's limits sinks in by repeatedly bumping into reality, one's identity clarifies itself, and one's humility deepens. Here are just a few of the things I stink at, and which have been contemplating this January: Being a leader. I am a natural born non-leader. Not a follower by any means (in fact, a lousy follower too), but utterly lacking in leadership skills or talents. When I say "Follow me!" nobody follows. And when somebody else says "Follow me!" I say "Wait a minute, and let me think about it." Being an executive. I am terrible at running things, and the things I get involved with running only work when the others take initiative. I am terrible at making organizational decisions except at the most elementary level, and I am a complete retard with office politics. I care enough, but I can't make things happen. Plus I detest going to meetings. They make me squirrely. Paperwork. I derive no pleasure or satisfaction from getting it done, and, despite years of determination, I find myself still making excuses to avoid it. Writing. I give plenty of talks and lectures, and do that well enough to convey information. I have plenty of ideas and things I think are worth writing about, but I lack the talent to write in memorable or engaging ways. I am at my best speaking off the cuff. And it's not that I dislike writing. I like to write things. I just never like the way it comes off on paper. Dull and pedantic, even when I try to write casual. That's partly why I do not post more regularly here. I am never even half-satisfied with what I put on paper. I have written a number of posts for Maggie's, read them the next day, said "That's lame," and pushed "delete." Phone calls. Unlike most women, I hate the phone. I avoid the phone. Basically, I will not make phone calls except under duress. I cannot get over this flaw. Maybe it's because I spend my days talking to people, but that sounds like an excuse. Anyhow, email is what makes my life function nowadays.
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Thursday, January 15. 2009Three links about PsychotherapyEverybody at Maggie's has seemed too busy to do much writing of his own this past month or so, so we have been throwing up link posts without adding much to them. I am in the same boat at the moment. Ars Psychiatrica on The Impossible Profession Eric Kandel on the biology of psychotherapy Neoneo on long-term psychotherapy. Photo of Freud demonstrating his tobacco-inspired analytic technique via Neoneo.
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Rude Boy vs. ADD
"Making Room for Miss Manners is a Parenting Basic." NYT
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