We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Please do not go around diagnosing people - or even yourself. Still, this is something to watch out for when dating. Interestingly, many men are attracted to women with borderline traits because of the drama. At first, anyway, it can be exciting. Borderline men exist too, but they are easy to avoid.
"many men are attracted to women with borderline traits because of the drama."
Couldn't be more wrong. Most men have dated a women with what is being called here "borderline traits", but is actually called crazy by the 99% who are not mental health care professionals. Why do they date them? These women choose to be men pleasers to get a man. But the get bored easily and after awhile they display their full crazy to get rid of the man so they can then enjoy the pleasure of catching another. They don't have normal relationships they have this "catch and release" philosophy and are probably single handedly responsible for most of the domestic violence we see today. The problem is the need to get a man to fall in love with them to make them feel good about themselves but then they need to dump him and do it all over again with another man to keep that good feeling. But in that process of dumping the man they become abusive and inexplicable in their actions and will themselves become violent. Often the man (especially if this is the first crazy women he has dated) is clueless as to what is going on and reacts to the violence and that is when the police become involved. 100 times worse if you marry them before you discover that they are crazy.
I predict only a few women will agree with me, most men will and zero mental health professionals will.
Women with BPD are reportedly exciting in bed as well. Not all, of course. But the need to use sex to keep fear of annihilation at bay causes a remarkable percentage to be sexual experimenters. Loss of a romantic interest is a frequent igniter of suicidality.
Assistant Village Idiot
Borderline is similar/adjacent to Narcissism in the universe of personality disorders. And we are living in a very narcissistic age.
WoW, this was extremely distracting to listen to. I diagnosed Dr. Ramani with stage 4 WGD. Wild Gesticulating Disorder. I got so caught up with all the motions she was making to the detriment of listening to what she had to say.
Call it coincidence or serindipity but I really needed to here this feed this weekend because my very close loved one is under the spell of the BP and now it appears the instability of the PD traits. I’m doing a lot of tongue biting of late. There is a battle going on of which a meer good ole boy cannot fathom. Mental illness is a real thing in my family’s life.