We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Is it the job of a marriage to sponsor "personal growth?" That sounds very 1960s. I think it is adolescent to think of marriage as an answer to life's questions, challenges, and dilemmas. A loyal and committed companion and partner is what it is.
I suppose we all get what we want or need out of marriage.
I like this quiz. My single gripe about marriage is the negative approach to new ideas that my partner takes. Over the years, she has grown in many respects, but refuses to acknowledge that growth and takes a negative view to all things related to growth.
My view of marriage is not only a committed, loyal companion - but also someone who can spur you on when things weigh you down. A Muse, if you will. Or a personal trainer who always sees the best in you.
As far as I know my generation (70+ years old) did not expect marriage to do anything for us. For myself personally my marriage was a promise between my wife and myself to commit to each other for life. A promise that is still in effect. (since 1962)
A few years ago, when my son was young and my state was passing the gay marriage act, I started pondering how to explain to my son WHAT marriage is. Between all the divorces, the gay marriage, living together, even having children out of wedlock.....I really could no longer explain the purpose of marriage to him. To this day, and I've been married over 25 years, I cannot explain marriage to him. I could when I was a child, but no longer.