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Thursday, January 13. 2011

What is marriage supposed to do for you?

Another one of those depressing marriage quizzes: The Sustainable-Marriage Quiz.


Is it the job of a marriage to sponsor "personal growth?" That sounds very 1960s. I think it is adolescent to think of marriage as an answer to life's questions, challenges, and dilemmas. A loyal and committed companion and partner is what it is.

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I suppose we all get what we want or need out of marriage.

I like this quiz. My single gripe about marriage is the negative approach to new ideas that my partner takes. Over the years, she has grown in many respects, but refuses to acknowledge that growth and takes a negative view to all things related to growth.

My view of marriage is not only a committed, loyal companion - but also someone who can spur you on when things weigh you down. A Muse, if you will. Or a personal trainer who always sees the best in you.
#1 Rick on 2011-01-13 13:07 (Reply)
Wrong question. It should read: "What are you supposed to do for your marriage ?"
#2 Quig on 2011-01-13 13:36 (Reply)
As far as I know my generation (70+ years old) did not expect marriage to do anything for us. For myself personally my marriage was a promise between my wife and myself to commit to each other for life. A promise that is still in effect. (since 1962)
#3 Bob Devine on 2011-01-13 17:31 (Reply)
As we had children, including adoptees, we picked up a lot of points on the "see yourself in a new way" and similar categories.

The wording suggests that "trying sushi" would also qualify, which I find irritating, but perhaps that is my own prejudice against the NYT working.
#4 Assistant Village Idiot (Link) on 2011-01-13 22:42 (Reply)
marriage is supposed to be a way to provide a stable home for your children, nothing more and nothing less.

Instead it's become a way to get tax benefits.
#5 J.T. Wenting on 2011-01-14 00:12 (Reply)
A few years ago, when my son was young and my state was passing the gay marriage act, I started pondering how to explain to my son WHAT marriage is. Between all the divorces, the gay marriage, living together, even having children out of wedlock.....I really could no longer explain the purpose of marriage to him. To this day, and I've been married over 25 years, I cannot explain marriage to him. I could when I was a child, but no longer.
#6 J on 2011-01-14 10:31 (Reply)

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