We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Yesterday we had a post by Bulldog about colleges as teen fun 'n sex resorts. By coincidence, this morning I chatted with a dad whose daughter is applying to college. She only willing to consider a college with a major football or basketball team, modern dorms with pool, sauna, and work-out room, and which offers a major in pre-school education. Plus she wants to go out of state to "be independent."
Would "the college experience" cost any more or less without the "education"?
She has high grades but mediocre SAT scores. Clearly the slick college marketing has captured her attention. She wants to try out for cheerleader.
I've been reading Edmund Wilson's A Prelude: Landscapes, Characters & Conversations from the Earlier Years of My Life. Wilson had the real, old-time "college experience," investing himself in a rigorous and vigorous life of the mind at prep school and at Princeton (advanced math, Greek, Latin, French, and his own literary and intellectual pursuits and interests on the side) while inhabiting spartan quarters and making many lifelong relationships.
He writes with such relaxed clarity and innocence that even his musings about aunts and uncles are a delight.
My advice would be if dad can easily afford this then do it. His daughter will indeed benefit both educationally and socially. She will likely meet a better class of potential husband in college as well. If the cost was not easy to cover then I would opt for community college followed by two years at a state school if she had the grades.
Different advice for a son in that if there was no clear cut goal, like engineering, computer science, etc. and he wasn't really a self starter, I would opt for community college or get a job. If the son was a budding genius then I would certainly pay for the best school he could get into without all the amenities listed. If he was a slacker and I knew he only wanted to party I would suggest either the military or a full time job.
Has anyone in the family looked into the job market for pre-school education majors? My guess is "Not Good". I also note that education majors are known to be among the least academically rigorous majors. Doesn't sound like she's too concerned about learning much. Does Dad expect to pay for the whole thing, or is she going to take out loans? What are the odds she'll be able to pay those loans back?
sounds indeed like the girl is only looking for a fun time to hook up with guys and learn as little as possible, all on daddy's paycheck.
She's probably going to complain as well that the 3 series BMW he got her for her 16th birthday isn't "good enough" for the environment she's going to see herself moving in, that she needs at least a convertible Mercedes SLK...
Since it is probably the case that the no-doubt charming young lady will have a life-long commitment (or, as some call them, student loans) by which to remember her college daze, who would deny her the absolute comfort to which she wishes to become accustomed?
The bimbo...I mean daughter...doesn't want to be independent. She wants to be unaccountable.
However, allowing - or forcing - her to become independent would be the best thing daddy could do for her. Let her get a job and pay her own way through college. She'll learn a lot more - both from the work experience and the classes she'll select more carefully when she's paying for them.
Will she screw up and do something dumb and come running back to get bailed out? That's a safe bet and the best thing daddy can do then is to say, "I love you, but you made your bed, so lie in it."
Oh, regarding the bimbo comment - with high grades and mediocre SAT scores, it's likely she is a bimbo who went to an easy high school that handed out easy A's.
I can't see all the negativity here. First off pre school educators are in demand. The job does not pay a great deal but it is a legit field of study. a BA holder is more employable than those without.
I don't where Mike gets off calling this girl a Bimbo there is no evidence whatsoever in the narrative of this being the case.
Cheerleaders are held to a higher standard of behavior at Colleges because they, like it or not, are frequently the face of the university at many functions.
i paid 100% of the bill for my sons education he graduated with a Masters Degree in Geology in 6 years and is employed in his field of study with a well paying job. He was picky about where he went in terms of decent dorm rooms.