We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
... we are in unforeseen territory. The women who can least afford to raise a child are the most likely to be single mothers, and the children who stand to benefit the most from stable homes and reliable fathers are the least likely to have them.
Divorced, I married a divorced mother of two boys 39 years ago.
The two became my sons in name and relationship.
The relationship was good for my wife and I both. We had more children together.
The two boys married single mothers over twenty years ago and then each had an additional child with their wives. We are all still married to the same spouses today. through the step children the boys and I have wonderful grandchildren and great-grand children respectively now.
By example is one way to break the cycle.
I appreciate what Dr Joy brings to this little cyber community here.
Not by accident. Lyndon Johnson and his cohorts engineered this breakdown of the family by making the federal government surrogate fathers/husbands. After WW II the Middle class hit it's stride and became the dominate factor in American politics. This had to be destroyed to make America easier to rule over and to loot. Today we are somewhere on that downward slope that will end with a Communist America. The left got a terrible scare about four years ago but thanks to help from the no nothing party they were able to dispatch Trump. Now to emasculate his supporters. A commie's job is never done said Nancy Pelosi in a drunken stupor.
Charles Murray of Bell Curve fame wrote about this years ago in the book: Coming apart: the state of white America 1960-2010. (he explains why white is in the title in the intro, it has a scientific reason, not racist). Mr. Murray is ahead of his time. Well worth reading.
Now we come to what the feminist leadership are teaching their obedient followers: how to help married women break free from marriage. The next generation of feminist leaders are being taught in community meetings the psychological and verbal strategies that succeed in breaking up silver marriages. This new focus serves two purposes--helps to free up some of the inheritance for the gals born to the first wife. It also proves to the younger women that you don't need to be married--marriages don't last so don't bother, etc.,etc. If you think that your local feminists do not meet to attend training sessions you are a fool.
There are two types of hard core feminists; The lesbians whose motive is obvious and the perpetually angry women who find pleasure in meting out verbal abuse. What angers both of these types is any woman who is happy as a wife and mother.
I think we all agree that kids grow up better in stable two parent families. However, I don't see Kay's point about happily married couples choosing not to have kids and how there is any connection between them and the women who choose to have kids without getting married. I see no connection, whatsoever, between these two groups. Yes, people should not have kids unless they are married (and their financial ducks are in a row). This is just common sense to me. Kay should focus her attention on those who do not recognize this as common sense and stop worrying about those of us who do have our act together in life.
This doesn't explain why unmarried people are having kids. But one reason why a lot people, particularly guys, are not getting married is because of all the bickering most married couples do, particularly with additional stress of having kids. Many people place a premium on peace of mind and will forgo other life options in favor of it. Its seems people who argue this stuff from a political perspective, both left and right, are tone deaf to this perspective.