We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Life isn't fair. We all know that. We also know that everybody has "issues," from the mild to the severe. While I would advise most people to try to address their issues, my first advice would be to try to conceal them in public.
That starts with behaving "appropriately" at all times, dressing well, getting a good hair style or haircut or whatever, and, if a guy, shaving before going out in public. I've been out and about quite a bit lately and see some women going to work almost looking like bag ladies or schizophrenics and guys looking like alcoholics. Maybe they are, but they should not advertise it. Odd and unstylish (relatively-speaking) appearance is only a good idea on Halloween.
Whatever people have going on inside, looking together and making a good social presentation makes a big difference in life. I do not mean to be superficial but first impressions carry a lot of weight. Like Peterson's "start by cleaning your room and getting rid of old stuff", acting and looking like you have got it together is a good first step. If you or your living environment look a little "off," that's an unfortunate impression. It's off-putting.
I'm so old now I really don't give a damn most of the time what people think when they see me. I wouldn't be caught dead in most modern clothing and certainly not in leggins like I see 300 pound women wearing to be in fashion. I am clean and try to be polite even though I don't like to be around people. When I was in business I dressed for business and not like a slob but I can't say that for many in the work force today. Try to go buy business clothes today, not much from which to choose.
OK, not everyone is going to agree but I like looking "common". Levi's, cheap cotton polo shirt, sandals in the summer and sneakers/hikers the rest of the time. I wear this everyday, everywhere and no one cares including me. That is what makes it great. I'm not dressing for someone else, no one notices me. I'm comfortable all the time (threw away my ties and suits when I retired years ago). And most importantly, happy as a clam.
So can I just say that it is all well and good to "dress shame" it still seems to be inappropriate to "fat shame". Seriously when I see someone grossly overweight and seemingly dressing to accent their overweight it is disgusting. I often wonder if they ever look in a mirror. Seriously, wouldn't you consider this far worse a transgression then not dressing up every day?
Then why do they always clam up if you ask them where they have been or what they have done? Clearly they have been up to no good, and are feeling guilty about it. I think their happiness is all an act to cover up deeper feelings of insecurity.
Adam Smith said much the same thing in his "Theory of Moral Sentiments." In times of loss, those closest to us offer succor and support, which we devoutly desire. But impartial society has a role to play too, as it asks us to go about our lives as competent and capable people.
I think of those who identify as victims and their empathetic enablers, and how quietly destructive it can be to society