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Thursday, July 17. 2008
Over the transom. This spoof of my profession is making the email rounds in Shrinklandia:
CC: My husband is never interested in sex. What should I do?
CC: My boss is a total asshole who doesn't appreciate my work, and I don't know what to do about it.
CC: It's just not fair.
CC: My job totally sucks.
CC: My problem today is that I don't always get along with my Mom.
CC: My marriage stinks because my wife/husband is an impossible jerk.
CC: I think it's because I was fat and unpopular and unathletic in high school.
CC: My husband complains that I waste too much of the money he makes.
CC: I don't fit into normal society. I think I'm just too creative and unconventional.
CC: I'm a deeply spiritual person, but I just can't relate to organized religion.
CC: My parents were too harsh and punitive with me.
CC: If only somebody would give me the chance, I could show what I can really do.
CC: Nobody really understands me.
CC: I don't test well.
CC: I saw on Oprah that it might help me to get in touch with my inner child.
CC: My husband keeps saying I'm self-centered, self-indulgent, and immature.
CC: Dad was never around or available, always working.
CC: I always feel as if I've done something wrong.
CC: My problem is that I always underestimate myself.
CC: I think it's about time I finally got my act together.
CC: I am a very intuitive person.
CC: Sometimes I feel like everybody deliberately avoids me and snubs me.
CC: I think maybe we should move somewhere else, where life is simpler. We might be happier.
CC: My insurance won't pay your full fee.
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Why Dr Joy you've changed, I can't believe what I am reading, to think a person who has such a beautiful tan, and such a nice bathing suit could think such horrible thoughts on her patients is astounding to me. Not that these assholes deserve it, but such a beautiful woman as yourself could think it! I am stunned, shocked and sicken by this whole episode. : ) Ciao Bella
"...could think it!"? How about to put it out proudly for everyone to read as if 'shrinking' is such tiresome work? Dr. Joy failed to mention that while she's entertaining such thoughts about those who come to her for help, she's being paid in the hundreds by those very assholes she mocks.
HRC Lydia and Jon,
It's only a joke. Don't get your noses out of whack. Even if Doctor Joy thunk it for two minutes, it's probably only ten or twelve bucks down the drain. So take some valium or klonopin and chill out. You shrinks should have a tough skin. The asshole comment might be inappropriate, but these people need a streatcher to help them out. I hope you two don't need one.
I recommend reading the opening line (outside the quoted block):
This spoof of my profession is making the email rounds in Shrinklandia.
While I agree that it was meant to be a joke, I totally sympathize with HRC's point of view. The shrink profession is in no position to mock these "patients" because in many respects they have created them in the first place with their endorsements over the years of victimology, blame-the-parents, inner-child, poor-self-esteem, yadda-yadda-yadda. If shrinks are tired of dealing with patients like this (and they should be), then maybe they need to put their own profession on the couch and find out why they do the things they themselves do. Of course it does make for a nice revenue stream to create problems and then get paid to fix them, just ask a (honest, ha-ha-ha) politician.
CC: Dr. Joy, Ya see I have been taking care of my parents for 4 years now. They have had the kitchen sink thrown at them. Breast cancer, lung cancer, prostrate cancer, stents, diabetes, vein transplants, and eventual leg amputation for each, both the right. I travel an hour and half every weekend to help them out. It's just my dad now, my mom died last year. Funny thing when my mom died, my dad was in the hospital to have his leg amputated. So I cancelled that surgery to take him home to bury my mother. Do you think I can take a weekend off from caring for my dad?
UR: Why you lazy self-centered, no good-for-nothing selfish bastard. How dare you think you can take a weekend off! They were always there for you, changing your diapers, feeding you, clothing you, getting up in the middle of the night to get you water when you needed it. Now it is your turn to take care of them. So just suck it up, get a hold of yourself. Your exhaustion is a figment of your imagination. Be a man and do the right thing.
Jappy: I am a man and I am doing it all. And I have not forgotten what they have done for me. I'll continue doing this because it is my duty and I'd have it no other way.
This was a self-deprecating spoof I think, not a serious piece.
KRW, I have done similar things for 30 years as a psychiatric social worker on an acute admissions unit. My patients are among the most desperate and needy on the planet. We make fun of them all the time, because dark humor is one common coping mechanism of dealing with tragedy (you should hear neurologists). If you would be so judgmental, come try it for thirty years and see how you do.
Ignorant bastard. Do you think compassion comes so cheap?
Wow. Strong reaction for simply opining that something was in poor taste. And coming from as it does from a psychiatric social worker, I'll take your "Ignorant bastard" comment as "self-deprecating" and move on.
Please see my comments in item #4. Care to address that point? Or was I in that instance also perceiving reality from a position of insufficient information which called into question the moral turpitude of my mommy and daddy. Oops, guess I lied about the moving on part....
No, actually it was a measured reaction on my part, and based on your complete comments, not just the poor taste part. Those of us who do this with lives on the line don't waste our time with inner-child, victimology stuff. That's out there but those are the pop psych people who, you will note, don't engage in dark humor about those they give advice to. You have it exactly backwards. The bestsellers which filter out to the popular culture have almost nothing to do with people who actually provide treatment.
As an analogy, it is as if you conflated "people who enjoy watching Patton" with "people who are in the military," and criticised servicemen on that basis.
"Ignorant bastard" was a measured response? One wonders how you really feel. I now see by your link that you're one of those really smart Promethean Society people, so no sense wasting your enormous brain power on this silly little argument. TTFN.
> CC: It's just not fair.
> UR: Are you one day old? You look older.