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Wednesday, July 11. 2007
Clearly the basic human sex act was designed more for the pleasure of guys than of gals. After all, DNA mixing is what it's all about. I suspect that a pill to help with staying power would be a big hit, equalling Viagra.
Regarding the study, though - the visual it evokes is just too much: a gal with a stopwatch would make any red-blooded fellow go as limp as a noodle, I would think.
All normal guys are a bit scared of girls, of course, but the Feminists don't get it.
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I got this 'advice' in a 'pass it on' email today. /s
Women, to be happy with a man, understand him a lot and love him a little.
Men, to be happy with a woman, love her a lot and do not try to understand her at all.
Hmm...I just can't agree with the mindset that sex was created for the pleasure of the man. No way. When it's right, I suspect women get far more physical pleasure than any man could ever hope for. :) The difference is, of course, getting it right for the woman. Men get it whether it's good, bad, right or wrong.
As for Viagra and similar performance drugs, I think it ruins the whole thing- sex. When a man can get an erection while looking at a wall (and he will using those drugs) it would really turn me off and I would lose all my...attraction to him. Women who are attuned to the act know how to keep things going...and going...and going. Same with men...if they have some self control.
Sex as contact sport, Olympics event, and act, is fine. Much better, though, is when 95% of intimacy happens between the ears- starting there and stimulating to places both obvious and unknown. There’s so much to explore in the slippery folds of the mind. Humans are lucky that way.
Perhaps pills are needed for chronic problems that frustrate men, but relations are much nicer without performance objectives-- imo. If a woman wants a man to perform like a twenty year-old, then date one. IIRC, they're not as interesting, though...
Decent middleaged women don't date 20 year olds. But a pill that would improve the physical performance of their beloved husbands in bed would do lots to improve the marital happiness of millions of loving wives.
Or do you think that nice women don't enjoy long, lusty sexual encounters? The day that my sex life has to happen only between my ears is the day I get locked up in the nursing home. And even there, I will be checking out the few sexy old guys.
Of course, realistically, such a pill would just be used by older guys to have more of a chance keeping a 25 year old mistress or trophy second or third wife. Even golddiggers want a decent sex life.
The fact is, I love men, and my closest friend is a middleaged man, but most men despise, patronise, or simply are platonically friendly with middleaged women. It is insulting to be carped at about intimacy when we get none of that from our menfolk anyway.
Some good sex would be a nice change. But not with a gigolo. Most women just want their husbands to get with the program, woo them, be sexier...People often justify men straying by the fact that their wives let themselves go lookswise, etc. Perhaps what really happens is that the men become terrible lovers, the women stop feeling appreciated sexually, and give up on their appearance.
We are not disembodied spirits.
I realize there are some medical conditions that might truly interfere with the performance of men. Of course I don't think it's an issue for them to use these drugs, even though I hate the thought that staring at me has no effect.
Acrobat sex isn't good sex. What makes sex good is when both parties get theirs, several times, totally satisfied. No need for contact sports to reach that goal.
And FIIW, 20 yr olds are boring. Immature. Selfish. Totally a turn off for sophisticated and knowledgeable women- who could teach them many dozens of things. The 20 yrs these days use Viagra and it's too bad. They don't need it but somehow our culture has told them they do...I have worked with some patients who used and abused this drug and by the time these young men are 25 or so, they are no longer able to do without it. The depend upon IT.
He/She who smokes after sex may have been bored with the experience.
Annie, whom are you talking to? "Nice women", "being carped at," etc? Why such extrapolations and belligerence?
"The day that my sex life has to happen only between my ears..." Boy, are you really wrong if you're implying I said that or live my life that way.
And, if your man needs pills for your long, lusty sexual encounters, then go for it!! Enjoy:) Who's saying not to?
But how is this not a function of between the ears, unless you're speaking of special underwear or something when you say: "Most women just want their husbands to get with the program, woo them, be sexier..."
Jebus. Such defensiveness on to offense. Be happy. I am. I'll even recant. Good sex doesn't happen between the ears!! It happens between the legs, the breasts, the sheets, the afternoon appointments, etc. :)
Well I could go into my idea of good sex but I don't think Bird Dog or his readers would appreciate it. There's no need to get defensive over this either. Just relax and be yourself. And have some fun...be creative, stop worrying so much about getting YOURS (lol sorry Bird Dog) and start focusing on giving. Trust me...when you give, you get back.
BTW, the 20 year-old thing was just a THROW AWAY line. Something absurd, as in everyone expecting more mature men to perform like them. Men with problems can take pills now, so great. It's just that, *IMO*, sex is so much more than how long he can last.
And, sure, it's terribly sad the young ones pass out sex pills as party favors. Kids abuse pills, anyway, but even they can't escape the constant message of 'better living through pharma'. So glad I don't have toenail fungus, b/c those pill commercials of high personal humiliation are really something.
Interesting comments, I admit, especially to man married thirty years.
But I have to confess that stopwatch thing is hard to get out of your mind.
You must be fairly bored from the sounds of it Annie? It takes two to make it work. When you expect one to do it all, you walk away miserably let down.
Who the hell wears a watch during sex????????
Good sex destroys our sense of time. Bad sex leaves one little to do but keep track of it. Watch or no watch.
And, yes, Raven it does take two to tango.
I wear a nice watch if I'm playing secretary and taking dictation...
Oh...I wear a watch when I'm playing naughty nurse.
Annie, if you're still here--
Some men take medications that reduce their drive, and even if this isn't the case, a doctor might be able to help with Rx that jogs the libido a bit. Sex is supposed to be one of the perks of marriage and great sex a right every hard-working wife/ mother/ professional/ and volunteer extraordinaire deserves. Husbands, too, of course.
I’m on a little hiatus by design but will survive. Sublimation through Pinots (that was a joke---)
(My name is Allison Ashley Abigail Aubrey A. Not telling my last name.)
Me use sex club for find romance. That it in corner of cave, next to wild animal club.
There are ways around overstimulation that don’t require a prescription. If the heat’s there you have to explore it.
The heat of the meat is equal to the angle of the dangle (where else but here will you suddenly recall a joke from high school geometry class?).
Postmortem- just to be clear, 'twas only a dumb play on Polly being gone in the sense of nirvana. Not funny, of course, but at least the derisive response was worth it.
Gone: Another word for *high*; to be dead or in an *altered state of mind*; drunk beyond recognition; *REALLY high on something*; not “here” anymore; really cool; beautiful and sexy
If anyone is still interested in this thread I ran across a new take on this 3 minute sex topic today. How about the guy dedicates that time to give the woman a 3 minute orgasm? There is this group of teachers (www.welcomed.com) who have a video about it on their site.