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Tuesday, March 20. 2007
A review of Louann Brizendine's The Female Brain, in The Daily
Read the whole review here. Funny how, if you say outloud the things that everyone's Mom and Grandma knew, you could get fired as President of Harvard. I think this book runs up against Cultural Marxism. Our Dr. Bliss wrote on this subject a while back: Cowboys and Cowgirls
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Stop Oppressing Me With Your Exuberant Floweriness!
Oh! The humanity! Friday concluded a grueling work week, during which we got little sleep and our productivity quotient was defined by a rather disturbing ability to churn out a depressing number of PowerPoint slides just chock full of delightfully...
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It's a cop-out to blame middle aged women's loss of interest in sex on their changing hormones. It doesn't describe all of us. I think when it happens, it has more to do with the wimpiness of many middle-aged men, hardly a knight in shining armor to be found except slumped in the tavern, online or in front of the TV...Except, of course, for the charming, handsome, well-read, brave, hunting, shooting, fishing members of the Christo-Fascist Militia a.k.a. Maggie's Farm literati...
ALso, I don't buy all those sweeping remarks about men and women. Yeah, long live the physical and courting differences, that add spice and delight to life...but otherwise? People are people...
I, for example, have never been accused of seeking concensus. I would rather win than be liked. I have been accused of being a tomboy, a !@#$ buster, unfeminine, etc. When I ran the Marine Corps Marathon, I purred at the sight of all those handsome young marines, and was flattered by their compliments, but I concentrated on running faster than each and every man in front of me...
Of course, I'm a social misfit, and daily cringe as the bleached blonde bimbo trophy wives who rule my community sneer past me to their volunteer meetings, while I work to support my family. Women who work for a living, and good mothers, often have to be ruthless and do the unpopular but right thing. I dare say that kept women are pliable and sweet, they have that luxury.
Just cranky after a long day at the office, nearly passing out and aching all over with a horrendous cold, topped off by a gruesome meeting with a kid's therapist about strategies for coping with psychotic violence. Yee-haw! It's a good thing nothing frightens me...no shrinking violets need apply for my job!
Men and women are different, and I love the differences. Still, some women don’t mind having authority on the job site and telling guys what to do, but perhaps in my case I do “ask” more than order, especially at first. It doesn’t seem to take long to establish authority with men who work for you, when they figure out you know what you’re doing. In personal relationships, though, I think most women prefer strong (good) men. I know I do.
Completely agree (hope that’s not too consensus-minded) about women smiling and using question-form statements too much, but bear in mind that, while men accept almost anything from other men (and I’ve seen it all!), they’re awfully sensitive when women offer critique or direction… Also, the bit about women in that age bracket losing interest in certain things doesn’t seem universally true, thank Venus.
I think this is about statistical tendencies, not universal facts.
Good to read you while you're in such a good mood. It must reflect that your testosterone hasn't diminished.
But I do think the old stereotypes that were wiped away by the PC thinking that has indoctrinated all of us weren't just stereotypes without reason. They were societal observations over many many many (am I approaching many-max?) generations of interaction between the sexes. The worlds stereotypes hae gotten a bad rap over the PC period as metrosexuals,dykes,sociopaths, et. al. tried to convince us that they were all as "normal" as everyone else, just that they were different than everyone else...yeah doesn't compute but to avoid lawsuits etc corporate America HAD to buy inot the entire "diversity is our unifier" concept. The corporate pooh bahs weren't about to risk mutltimillion dollar jobs and lawsuits to stand for anything so queers became just a minor subset or normal but "normal none the less. Of course now the typical workplace looks like a petting zoo in Borneo but hey, it's alll normal.
Yeah, I was personally glad to read some data that underscored the difference in men and women. And most of the time I'm thankful for the difference ...unless I'm in the doghouse for being a man.
I have worked for both male and female supervisors and have seen the best and worst in both. Some women were guardian angels; others should have been quarantined for rabies. As for the males, almost the same holds true, except the worst could have been CEOs in gulags. Age didn't play a part, but upbringing and just being rectal cavities did.
Bill and Hill are the exception that proves the rule? Bill just wants to be loved. Hill just wants to tell you what's best for you.
Speaking of testosterone, ladies, that Adam looks alright! Why is Eve cozying up with that slimy serpent when she has that gorgeous hunk of man she could be embracing?! That's the problem, marital indifference, that's when sin began...and she started filling her head with all these projects and wanting to improve herself, and before she knew it her happy home was wrecked...
Oh geez retriever: being a working mom is very, very difficult. I discovered that working 60 hour weeks as a single mom was a loosing game--can't win the motherhood challenge when your not at home.
I am so sick and tired of "female faculty" calling me and telling me I have to get my husband to put their name on his work cause: "you know we gals all got to stick together". Or, how about this one: "you put me on your research project and I'll manage the calendar and budget--you do the research". He once worked at an extremeley liberal private university. Most of his assistants were lesbians. Their partners had better benefits than I could get, the reason:"no deals for women like you". Meaning, no deals for straight, white stay at home wives. Or, how about this one: "I can't grade my student's papers, because I am so involved in raising my son". COMMON KNOWLEDGE: it is accepted practice for the older faculty women to teach the younger female grad students, that it is ok to steal a man's work and pretend it is your own, because of the centuries of oppression" Here is one for you: how about the fact that the AAUP (American Association of University Professors, expects any man to make any female academic look good in order to continue working in academia himself" NOT FREE TO LEAVE has become the requirement for a white, straight male. Then again . . . .
Retriever: sorry to hear about kid problems--they are always so terrifying! I'll say a prayer. Just remember: the vast majority do come out all right!
Interesting read and information on those links from Dr. Joy. And in the posts here too.
Some of what I read in the web md link did hit home. I have 3 brothers and no sisters and grew up in a neighborhood where there was never a shortage of kids to put together a game. We played hard almost everyday. We played baseball, kickball, dodgeball, tag, hide and seek, badminton, volleyball, and our real fave, touch football (but no soccer. I had to play it in high school and never liked it). And when I got older, I was good at math, especially geometry.
From web md.....
-"Men and women do have lots of brain areas that are the same," Geary tells WebMD. Moreover, members of both sexes excel at skills that are commonly labelled gender specific. "All of these things have overlapping distributions. There are many women with better-than-average spatial skills, and men with good writing skills," Geary says.
Some researchers believe that nurturing one's brain can enhance what nature has provided. Consider, for instance, the general superiority of males' spatial abilities. "There's a lot of evidence that we build up our brain's representation of space by moving through it," Denckla tells WebMD. As anyone who spends a significant time around children knows, boys tend to get a lot more practice "moving through space" -- chasing a ball, for instance -- than girls do. "My hypothesis is that we could possibly erase this difference if we pushed girls out into the exploratory mode," Denckla says. She predicts that as more and more girls engage in sports traditionally reserved for boys, like soccer, the data on spatial ability will show fewer disparities between females and males.
I don't know when I first became aware of having very good hands for catching a ball. I just p layed a lot of ball both basketball and baseball. I was not one of the girls, who was pushed, or coaxed into a society of girls, though I did do three years with the scouts. Their mothers were not like mine, so I never fit in with that sedantary life style of girl cliques. If there was nothing physical and outdoors going on, I was gone. Often shooting baskets for hours in the back of the school yard by myself. I also loved to ride jumpers. A love of the animal which gradually became an intellectual drive and passion with spotting my take off and becoming one with another living thing for only a moment, and then consummed with the idea of staying on. I lived rather an isolated childhood--it gave me some wonderful opportunities to expand my spatial skills, and eye hand co-ordination. It also taught me not to be dependent on the a circle of women to define either my opportunities, or the resultant skills.
Second comment: in two sports that I am familiar with--jumping and ice skating, I have noticed the drive toward not requiring proficiency in the boring basic routines, which allow the athelete to acquire real grace as they move toward accomplishing the tricky stuff. In fact, in ice skating they have eliminated the requirement for figures, which children used to have to do move forward and which counted heavily in competitions. Now they just buy very fancy costumes, acquire the basic lift and land, there is a real loss of the beauty and grace which was best reflected in Torvil and Dean.
With regard the hunter/jumper set. . . ahh well that is another soapbox for another forum.