Maggie's Farm

I have had the talk:

I have two granddaughters who I discussed marriage and relationships with. I advised them to put aside a little money just incase and tell no one. I said that if a boyfriend or husband hits or threatens to hit you that you should leave them but do it safely without confrontation if possible; as in the next day when he goes to work pack your stuff and go to a friends, your parents or grandparents. I explained the legal issues; calling 911, getting a restraining order, domestic violence laws, etc. I also advised them to make friends with neighbors and other older adults so that they would know someone close that they could trust and call for help. I talked about date rape drugs and the dangers of simply getting drunk.


I also talked to my grandson and advised him that if a relationship goes sour that his partner could well charge him with domestic violence or take out a restraining order just to take advantage of him. That he should always know how much money he has in his wallet because people who are close to you might steal from you. I told him that if his partner tries to create a confrontation or worse that he should be as nice as he can be and leave for awhile. But then at the first opportunity when she is not home to remove his property and put it someplace safe so it doesn't get destroyed or thrown away. And if any of these things happen to get far away from her and end the relationship. Men have gone to jail even without doing anything wrong simply because the woman needed him gone so she could cheat on him. I told him too of the dangers of simply getting drunk.