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Sunday, July 26. 2020

The Victim, the Persecutor, and the Rescuer

A friend told me about the Karpman Drama Triangle.


It's a model for (dysfunctional) family dynamics. One aspect of the model is that the Victim is not necessarily a literal victim, but one who assumes the victim role.


Posted by Bird Dog in Psychology, and Dr. Bliss at 14:15 | Comments (3) | Trackbacks (0)

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It's more than that. If you are raised in a multi-child family your position with your siblings "can" determine which role you choose. As can a dominant parent(s) and/or a lack of love and respect from the parents. Then, throw in mental health issues and learned/intuitive responses and the possibilities are endless.

I prefer to think of them as sheep, guard dogs and wolves. The difference being in my version the guard dogs are always motivated by "doing good" where as in the Karpman Drama Triangle, the "rescuers" motives can be attributed to being a victim seeking revenge OR being an oppressor seeking power. In fact I suspect some combination of those two views is probably more correct.
#1 OneGuy on 2020-07-26 16:19 (Reply)
I would separate the drama triangle from your sheepdog analogy because each position on the triangle is defined by dysfunction. The roles are to immobilize and gain power over others. The way to win is to not play. Get off the triangle, leave the drama.
#1.1 Ama on 2020-07-27 13:46 (Reply)
Remember: the victim position is the most powerful in this triangle. If I react by persecuting or rescuing then I strengthen the victim. The way out is to do neither, to act as an adult rather than as the child who acts as one of three.
#2 Joe (Link) on 2020-07-26 16:38 (Reply)

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