We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
People over 35 tend to prefer experiences over material stuff unless it's a fun new sports car. A few ideas:
- A rocky Mountain or European guided hiking trip. All sorts of good ones for all levels of fitness on the internet.
- A charitable donation to something good, in their name.
- 7 weeks of 3 day/week sessions with a trainer at a local gym. That's enough time to get the fundamentals of calis and weights, so the spouse can do it on his or her own daily, afterwards. Make sure trainer knows enough about nutrition to handle either muscle-toning or fat loss/weight gain, and is not a musclehead. A skinny friend gained 13 rock-hard lbs from lifting over 10 months.
- Tickets for the NYC Ballet always makes the female spouse happy. Happy wife, happy life. If remote, grab a hotel room. Fun. Just not the darn Nutcracker.
- A firearms class of any sort, whether for handgun permit, clays, whatever. Good fun. Guns are fun for guys and gals. My girls get a kick out of shooting (but this year they need/want more musical instruments). I heartily approve of home-made music. Ability without talent is good enough to make a house a home. Mrs. BD and my daughters have ability. My son, not so much it seems, to his sorrow. Vocally, all of us are zeros but that's what instruments are for. Just takes brains.
- Give a gift of a year of Maggie's Farm. It's free, all it takes is the gift of a link to us.
A well received gift is a yearly pass to your State's parks or a National Parks pass. I've learned that having such a pass encourages greater use of these natural treasures of ours. The sunk cost frees up a person to go on in.
Re: T injections. Not something to just do willy-nilly. You'll need a blood work up for hormones, liver, PSA, etc. Then if you do show a low T level you might also need an estrogen blocker pill. Then a few month later another blood draw to see if you have too much T, not enough blocker, etc. so the Dr. can balance your doses. But if someone is diligent it is worth it. More energy, better muscle tone especially if you work out and, possibly a fan with your mate (if that's up both your alley's otherwise the mate might find it overwhelming).