We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
The only self-help book you’ll ever need, from a psychiatrist and his comedy writer daughter, who will help you put aside your unrealistic wishes, stop trying to change things you can’t change, and do the best with what you can control—the first steps to managing all of life’s impossible problems.
So I get it, life is full of problem and choices all while trying to keep family work and your life together. But I can't help but believe that for most people a "self help" book or professional help is unnecessary. AND for those who absolutely do need help their "need" can never be satisfied or fixed by a book or a professional.
I discovered it a few years ago. It gave me permission to stop the futile and very painful lifelong attempt to be what everyone else expected of me. I wish I had had that clarity 50 years ago. Now it's "take me or leave me; I no longer care". I have to take care of myself; no one else is going to do it for me.
I confess that i am a bit of a junkie for self-help books. And i gained insights from the more principled approaches. But you have to wade through a lot of quick-fix pop-shlock to find the good ones.
In a better world people would get these insights and lessons from family, school, community, faith, and work. But in today's isolating and "deconstructed" environment it is easy for people to develop unhealthy notions about self, spirit, and society.
The Left's Long March through Western culture and the heartless game of percentages by which it weakens family and community have been successful. There are many young people who did not get obvious Western lessons in personhood and responsibility through parenting or education. The lucky ones find someone like Jordan Peterson. The unlucky never escape the gravitational pull of modern navel-gazing psychotherapy, or cover their nakedness with the vestments of politicized victimhood.
I was only vaguely aware of what was wrong in my family. Such is the power of the parental relationship. And later i was too scared or fearful to seek help. (As a popular AA speaker says: when you pay that much for a good psychologist, you can't risk rejection by telling the truth.)
The good, insightful, values-based books were a lifeline.
Amazing. I preached this to all of my six kids 50-60 years ago. None have needed mental help yet to my knowledge and all appear to be approaching old age with satisfied minds, so maybe there's something to it.