Maggie's Farm

The correct question: Why did women decide to give sex away for free?

http://www.maddogslair.com/blog/the-correct-question-why-did-women-decide-to-give-sex-away-for-free

"Spend a little time with single women in their early to mid-30s, and you'll be grateful you're not one of them. The relationship scene is even more dismal today than when I was their age. All the women want serious relationships that lead to marriage, but many of the men they meet do not. All too often a woman moves in with some guy, hoping they're on the road to somewhere. Two years later, he tells her he's not ready for marriage and kids just yet. Splat.

But wait. Hasn't online dating made the mating market easier? Yes – for men. If you want to hear a woman rant, just utter the word Tinder.

Single women are more equal and empowered than ever before. They have unparalleled sexual, reproductive and economic autonomy. In many ways, they're doing much better than the men. (Just look at the lopsided university graduation rates, which are now around 60-40). And yet, large numbers of young women admit their private lives are a sad mess."

Frankly, men understand what they want, their goals, and the trade-offs and have forever. Women seem to be clueless about these things, but at around 35 they suddenly have the epiphany that building a career, working 80 hours per week, and putting off making a family is not what they want. What they want is marriage to a loving man, family, community, friendships and all that goes with them.

"In a nutshell, over the past few decades, the traditional relationship exchange has broken down. It used to be that men and women each had something the other needed. Men needed access to sex. Women needed access to resources. Men couldn't get steady access to sex unless they had resources to offer, so they worked hard for them. The partnership between men and women was a grand bargain that (usually) left both sides better off.

For men, sex was traditionally expensive. The price tag was a long-term commitment to provide for a woman (and children). But today, sex is cheap. And that changes everything."

The dominance hierarchy has been around for at least 350 million years, and women just realized this? Mon Dieu!

"This is the premise of a bracing new book, Cheap Sex, by American sociologist Mark Regnerus. Sex got cheap because of three technological developments: the advent of the Pill, which divorced fertility from sex; the onset of mass-produced, high-quality pornography; and the arrival of online dating sites, which make it easy for men to find willing sex partners."

Oh come on, you must be smarter than this. Yes, the pill had something to do with cheap sex, but the cheap sex phenomenon was in full flower before the Internet, high-quality Internet porn, or dating sites, and porn before the Internet was creepy outside of magazines.

And what about abortion?

What happened was that before the pill, or Roe v. Wade, feminism was actively pushing for parity in sexual promiscuity between men and women. With the pill, and the success of Roe v. Wade, the Boomer drug indulgence, and the Summer of Love the culture flipped over the course of a few years. Films like Deep Throat also drove the sexual shift, less because people viewed these movies and more because of the open, free exuberance of the actors. It was evident they were having fun. People talked about that fact.

All of this unleashed a pulse of libertinism through the culture.

By the time the Internet was in its infancy, and Internet porn and dating sites became prevalent, the neo-Victorian backlash had begun from the 3rd (or is it 4th) generation feminists.

"Sexual liberation is a fabulous thing – in some ways. But it can also turn men into louts, because women don't expect much in return for access. Today, most men can have all the sex they want for very little cost – no fancy dinner required. The irony, as Mr. Regnerus writes, is that today's mating market is probably more dominated by men's interests than ever before."

Sexual liberation was the most fabulous thing for me, but not for women, outside of a small few, most of whom are emotionally damaged nearly beyond repair. Female sexual promiscuity often creates emotional dissonance; this dissonance is a primary reason so many women falsely accuse men of rape. The culture is telling these women that promiscuity is acceptable, but 350 million years of evolution are screaming otherwise. The emotional dissonance is severe and often destabilizing.

The Grand Bargain was reduced to an agreement where men gave women sex and in exchange women gave men sex. Notice how that eliminated the female goal of resources? This came from feminists. Brilliant.

"A lot of women seem to have their act together these days. But a lot of men don't. "I think the greatest, most astonishing fact that I am aware of in social science right now is that women have been able to hear the labour market screaming out 'You need more education'… and men have not," MIT economics professor Michael Greenstone says in Cheap Sex."

Huh? There are no idiots like the highly credentialed idiots in the Academe. Women have their act together? The last many paragraphs elucidated that women are giving away sex for free which has allowed men to drop out of the Grand Bargain of marriage in favor of what they want - cheap, easy sex without attachments or responsibility. Sorry women do not have their act together. Women got played big time by themselves; men had nothing to do with it other than cheerleading them on once the sexual revolution ball was rolling.

Let's be honest here, this statement by professor Greenstone is stupid: ". . . [W]omen have been able to hear the labour market screaming out 'You need more education'… and men have not . . ." Ok, so women heard the labor market demanding they be more educated. But women do not pursue degrees in fields which pay well. You know in areas like STEM. Many women get degrees in Interpretive Lesbian Dance and the myriad Studies programs none of which offer any job in the real world. Or they get degrees with offer low-paying social service jobs. The market is not screaming for more of the education women are obtaining.

That said, many women do get an education which results in high-paying employment, such as law and medicine. These women tend to be excellent students who do well at University, pass the bar or boards, and enter professional practice with high hopes. But by the time they are 35 these women are burned out and disillusioned. They were not looking for 80 hour work weeks in perpetuity, nor were they looking for clients calling at all hours of the day or night demanding immediate action. These women mistakenly thought that these jobs would attract men, but men do not value women who are capable of providing resources, men value in a woman beauty, youth, indicia of fecundity, and agreeableness.

The lives of these women begin to look bleak, and this is because there is no dominance hierarchy which these women can climb to make these jobs emotionally rewarding. The men have the male dominance hierarchy to climb and are not just willing to work 80 hours per week and be on-call night and day. The long hours cause these men to receive a bigger bonus, or paycheck than the next sod, placing them above him in the male dominance hierarchy. These men thrive on competition, something these high-pressure jobs offer in spades.

"Like it or not, women have always been the gatekeepers for sex – not because they don't like sex, too, but because (no matter what you learned in gender studies) men's sex drive is innately higher. This means it's up to us to make the rules. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" my father used to say. It drove me crazy when he said that. Now, it's dawned on me that he was right."

No! No! No! Women are the gatekeepers of sex because infant humans are born too young because humans have HUGE heads and have to be born long before they should. This means that children take a long time to mature, perhaps 14 years. 50,000+ years ago the resources necessary to raise a single child to maturity were astronomical, and a single woman likely did not have a chance. So, evolution demanded women gatekeep sex so men would bind themselves to a woman for long enough that the couple could provide the resources to raise their children. Male higher sex drive encouraged for the men to enter coupling relationships.

This is the reason that more antediluvian religions like Islam have such draconian rules about female promiscuity. Even one promiscuous woman could delaminate a community by devaluing female sexual attraction and weakening the desire of males to bond into couples.

"'Good husband material doesn't occur naturally, but is instead the product (in part) of socialization, development, and social control," Mr. Regnerus writes. "[I]n the domain of sex and relationships men will act as nobly as women collectively demand."

Time to get our act together, ladies. If we don't, they won't either."

So, all we need to do is count on the very same people who got us into this mess to now do the right thing? These women don't even know what the right thing is, or where to find it.

The first thing to do is chuck the postmodernist/feminist BS, and return to what we know works, the Great Western Canon. Including the moral narratives in the Bible.

For the quick and dirty on male/female relationships read: What Women Want--What Men Want: Why the Sexes Still See Love and Commitment So Differently All young people should read this book before they start dating.

https://www.amazon.com/What-Women-Want-What-Men-Want-ebook/dp/B001EQ62H4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1506586143&sr=8-1&keywords=what+women+want+what+men+want

Also, you should watch all three of Professor Jordan Peterson's courses: 1. Personality and its Transformations, 2. Maps of Meaning, and 3. The Psychological Significance of Bible Stories.

https://www.youtube.com/user/JordanPetersonVideos


Mark Sherman