We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
A brilliant little nugget, thank you for sharing that.
I feel compelled to suggest that the hippy / Buddhist notion of acceptance or accepting one's self is not about being satisfied with one's condition so much as it is about seeing one's actual condition clearly and honestly.
The Catholic notion of accepting yourself begins with accepting that you are a sinner, as is everyone. In that regard, you are not "special." By the same token, a Catholic accepts that without Jesus you cannot improve anything, much less yourself. OTOH, your sins can and will be forgiven, provided you are honest about your sins, truly regret them in every possible way, and are willing to make the effort to work with Jesus so that you don't sin again. Every night or day, one reviews the ways one has fallen short of the Kingdom--keeps you realistic and honest. When one falls into mortal sin--that is, knows that one committed a sin, it was a major issue, and one consented to commit that sin--then off to Confession one goes, to tell the sins and ask forgiveness, and gain the strength to battle it again.
Nothing in this Catholic view of life and self condemns anyone for things over which he or she has no control, but for those things they can change or find ways to cope with, one is held accountable.
So if you aren't ok, don't accept that you won't be okay. You can and will become okay with the grace of God and a mess of personal effort and committment.
Interesting. But the truth is, none of us will ever reach that noble goal of being okay (Thomas A. Harris was wrong). Because none of us have the ability to remove ourselves from ourselves. Thus, God sent us a remover of ourselves, Christ Jesus. Res Ipsa Loquitur, amen. Mahalo.
I have never assumed that "Ok" meant "perfect", "great" or "well". It just means "ok". Nominal. Tracking, not horribly f*ked up.
You ask a guy who got thrown hard to the mat at a martial arts class "You ok", "Yeah, I'm ok". He might be a bit winded or shaken, but he's "ok".
You ask a soldier who's transport just got hit by an IED how he's doing. He's looking around at the dead and the severely wounded, and he's got a few cuts and some blast deafness, maybe a concussion "I'm ok Sarge, let me help you with Jones..."
Ok means room for improvement, not perfect.
But other than that little semantic quibble yeah, he's right.
William O. B'Livion
Most folks are perfectly fine with telling you that you're not ok. It's when you hold up the mirror that they feel like they're being pulled off a high horse.
I'm not OK, and you're not OK (So Keep Working.)
Shuts down the smug and pious, and keeps everybody in a right proper state of humility.
I think the issue of accepting yourself is one of subtleties.
I am perfectly happy with who I am. I am also not interested in changing to suit anyone else's ideas of who I 'should be'. I am interested in improving myself (as anyone should be interested in doing), and I am interested in learning.
But I'm happy and accepting of who I am. Because I enjoy progress.
But I don't enjoy conforming to a norm which is uncomfortable.
So this is an interesting concept. Because "quality" (and I read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance) is something which can be defined several ways. Is it quality that the masses want? Or is it quality as you define it (Pirsig's essential point)? Or is it some other form of quality?
Pirsig tells a story of how he stopped grading papers and watched the quality of the writing improve. Fear of failure forced the students to try harder. He gave them a project to write about a wall, and one student couldn't figure out how to write it. So he told them to pick a brick....and the student eventually determined that the more detailed he broke down the wall, to it's elements, the more he found to write about.
Quality which we take on as our own is what makes us unique, and what makes us valuable. It's what we have to share with others - what makes trade (of our ideas, or our skills, or anything of our own) valuable and useful and not one-sided.
I'm quite accepting of who I am because, hopefully, who I am today isn't who I will strive to be tomorrow. I benchmark against who I was yesterday. Not against another person.