We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Lust, infatuation, True Love, erotic intoxication, romantic passion - call it what you will. We all know that new passion is exhilarating and agonizing too. Humans will do unwise things to taste that fruit. From a scientific standpoint, this is caused by a little devilish prankster named Cupid who gets a kick out of making people crazy.
Good advice in that article. It's temporarily fun to indulge in a secret infatuation, but what you're really doing is substituting a relationship that doesn't exist for a chance of something real. You're not dealing with a real person who has his own independent role in a relationship with you; you're neither giving nor getting anything real. As the author says, you're in a blind alley, and nothing will do but to turn out and go back out.
I can't identify with anything in the article. It reads like an article in a woman's magazine or a cheap romantic novel. I never fell in love with a relative and I feel confident that if it were to happen I would not be in a quandary about what to do about it. It all seems fake, made up to puff up the article. Maybe it's true/real and I'm just out of touch. But it seems to all be a problem for those people who are eternally dreaming of a romance instead of actually living their life.