We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
When they get to be old enough to drive, start to back off. Don't freak out over every little thing. Try to remember how little your own parents knew about where you are and what you were doing and how you were able to drive a car out of the driveway and wherever you wanted without constantly needing to check in with your parents.
Trust your kids have values, but will make mistakes. Be there to support them when needed without being judgmental.
When they go off to college: LET THEM BE. As long as they are not failing, they will figure it out. How to study, how to get to class, how to make friends, buy books, sign for classes, graduate.
If at all possible, give your children a small allowance. You---as an adult---know full well how much of your self-worth is tied to your income. This is why a child needs a little money in his pocket. You can require him to tithe, to save, to wait before spending, and to consider what is ephemeral and what endures. But a child needs to learn how to handle money---and account for it---as soon as he can tell you how much money he has.
Every child needs to contribute some form of labor to the home. Not to be harped on, but simply to understand that it takes all hands to make the house run smoothly, and many hands make light work.
I must study politics and war that my sons may have liberty to study mathematics and philosophy. My sons ought to study mathematics and philosophy, geography, natural history, naval architecture, navigation, commerce, and agriculture, in order to give their children a right to study painting, poetry, music, architecture, statuary, tapestry, and porcelain.
We've achieved John Adams' dream. Now we have complacent, perpetually adolescent majority.