Maggie's Farm

I have posted in the past about my ideas about how Reality Therapy can help people be their best. Hiding from discomfort gets us nowhere. Bumping against reality teaches us our limits and weaknesses, and invites us to either accept them or to try to figure out how to overcome them.

I have advised people, over the years, to seek rejection as a way to help them deal with their rejection fears. Rejection fears are not neurotic really, just human because we all know that nobody can love or appreciate us as much as Mom did when we were little. Also, because we know our flaws and, as adults, we know we are not precious snowflakes but just ordinary people who are fortunate if we are liked, much less loved.

I once urged a shy, awkward young man to approach the girl he most admired in his class to engage his courage and to face rejection gracefully. Experiment failed: She liked him.

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