We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
My god! If you watch the entire video and aren't crying there is something wrong with you. Some things humans do are simply incomprehensible. His wife is a saint. But oddly he isn't the devil or anything simply misguided or something for 23 years. Unbelievable. I kept waiting to find out it was a joke but no it's just unbelievably stupid behavior.
My former father in law, MD and PhD in Pharmacology, tried a variation of this to punish his wife. I was told by a brother in law that for about 10 years his parents didn't speak to each other. I wasn't there so I don't know for sure. I wish his brother (the man I married) had told me this before I married him. And yes it did make me tear up.
Dr. Joy, this has to be one of the, if not the most profound post you've ever made. I (and several others to this point) am awestruck! Otou-san is evidently a very, very sensitive individual who lives in a demanding culture and has been unable to cope with the division of his wife's affections. Glad to see his son was able to initiate a fix. People, they're the craziest kind of animals, hai?
Not excusing the father's stupid behavior but his feelings are based in reality. I thought it might just be an American thing but now I can see that it might be universal. Often a wife will abandon her husband for the kids. Then he merely becomes the economic engine for the family with very little maintenance from his wife. I was lucky in that for the first three years of my marriage my wife and I were in a young married class at church which taught us that the marriage always comes first. Even then, there were trying times when my wife put the needs AND wants of our young children ahead of me. Obviously, that should be OK for a time but at some point the marriage must be put back at first priority for both husband and wife. I suspect this man felt the abandonment that a lot of fathers do when the children are very young but it became pathological, probably for both him and his wife.