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My two oldest are teenagers now, so the topic of dating comes up once in while at our house. I have given a lot of this advice to them already, but it was nice to see it laid out from a cooler source than old dad. Thanks for the link.
It looked to be a good list, however I would add destructive personal behavior. A person who who smokes, drinks too much. uses illegal drugs, gambles or runs up massive consumer debt is likely to continue to do so after marriage. People don't change. They are who they are.
While I certainly believe that there is some good advice there I don't think it is all that simple. You meet a woman, you are attracted to her and she to you. You fall in love and she does too and you marry and have a family and THEN you begin to discover all the little things you were blind to and of course she does as well. Love will go a long way towards getting through the tough times. I am just not sure that dumping the girl you love for one who is amicable will work in the long run. When you remember the one you loved but walked away from because she didn't treat wait staff kindly while you find yourself in a compromised relationship with someone who is polite but you realize you don't love her, what then? You have one life and my advice to any young man would be to look for love and marry her and be the best husband you can be. It may not last for 65 years but I truly believe it is the only correct answer to this question
Having been through a number of red-flag relationships myself -
the fires of passion and infatuation cool pretty fast. You've got to ask yourself - if I weren't sleeping vigorously with this person, would I like them enough to even be close friends with them?
If the answer is 'yes' - and you don't have any of the red flags - then latch onto that one and don't let her go.
If she's a drama queen? Run like hell - you don't need that.
Hits you during an argument? Run like hell - sooner or later you'll hit back and YOU will go to jail on that one.
Expects you to dump YOUR friends and be by her side 24/7? Run like hell - that ain't healthy.
Everyone's got their own criteria and limits that are relationship breakers, of course - but... when you hit your limit, go. Don't look back, don't listen to 'But I'll change!' - because if she didn't before that point, she's not going to now.
But keep looking. I didn't find the woman I married until I was 35 - after making the mistakes and figuring out what I DIDN'T want. Something like this video would have helped speed up the process.