Maggie's Farm

For Bull Dog:

Sorry for the delay in responding to your story—you are coming into this debacle about 25 years after it began
I respect your desire to remain faithful to the needs of your family and to provide for them in the best possible way.

BUT, you must understand: from the beginning of NOW (National Organization of Women) there has never been a goal, or an ideal, of meeting men on some middle ground. There has always been only one strategy— dominate or destroy. That is what the original leadership of NOW demanded and it was they taught their lieutenants to demand, etc. on down to what they teach your daughter in college today.

Understand that there is no one in the legal community who will represent a straight, non-Jewish, white male against any female or a minority—NONE—NOT ONE! For you there is no legal system. No defense based on an agreed ethic.

From the moment you walked into her (EVP) office to offer good faith, you moved into another realm. I think it will not take too long before you discover that it is not a very nice place to be —probably less than a year. From now on you are clearly weak: you do know how bullies feel about weak people don’t you? You are in a very vulnerable position—but, you must understand for her it is all now pure gratification (a little wet spot in her panties that no one will ever notice) Because you have no defense (see # 4). There are rare occasions when women in power have seen the advantage of taking care of their male employees—but, those occasions are few.

My suggestions for you are this: Keep working, demonstrating good faith—but start looking. Ask the Barrister to connect you with wealthy donors to the Republican party, or to other conservative engineering company managers. If you have an advanced degree (at least a master’s degree) you can possibly get someone at FIRE to help you find a teaching position with a 3-5 year contract. It wont’ be much, maybe just one or two night classes a year—but, it is a foot out the door. Meanwhile keep your day job, while looking at ways you can update your skills. Better still, take a look at the “passions of your heart”. I know that is typically not considered good advice and certainly is not good advice to a youngster just starting their college education. However, for an adult of your age it is a different perspective—a different viewpoint that may offer you insights into other job opportunities. Volunteer for projects you care deeply about—see who you meet. In your own local community, do NOT put the word out that your looking to find another position, especially not within the local community of fellow engineers—just keep your mouth shut and ears open. However, if you have friends in other cities in your profession ask them to keep an eye open.

Finally, here is MY passion: to help straight, white, American men get organized in local community groups to help protect each other and support each other, so that they will never again be ashamed of what happens to them in the workplace. To help them voice their their opposition to the new value system that has been put into place in this country. We need you to speak out as a unified voice. Just think how bad it was when the “Father’s Rights” groups came into being back in the late 1980’s. White fathers had no rights—ZERO. But, finally a small group of men here became linked to another small group over there, they organized and their voices were heard. Maybe then, and ONLY THEN, will someone in the legal community have the courage to stand up in your defense. Maybe that is something you would like to work on in your spare time—out of town of course for now.

Be certain of this — when you no longer have something to offer the EVP and her chosen gals, you will be out of a job. Unless you are ready to stoop to some pretty low levels. Her secret joy is in creating castratos. Don’t lie to yourself. 

All of this is coming from a woman who has been stalked, had her home broken into, been assaulted and physically attacked in public, and whose husband has not had a full time job in 15 years. All because I refused to let him stay on and “make her look good.” They stole, and they stole, and they stole. And, when I refused to let them steal anymore they tried to destroy a good man—they destroyed a career—but not the man, nor his family. 

If you never served in the military let me assure you that helping to get men like yourself organized and protest this abuse in the workplace may be equal to having done military service and defending this country. It is that IMPORTANT!

Perhaps you can even get your wife to start organizing other white wives into forming a group to support men such as yourself. 

Good Luck.