We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Men today are asked regularly to 'show' their emotion or are simply regarded as automatons.
I see it at work all the time. I will blame women for this. The rise of the touchy-feely "Emotional IQ" courses which are recommended for people to take (and yes, to appear the good soldier I've taken them) were all generated by women, and they hold the concepts in these courses close to their view on how work should be done.
Most of it is garbage in my opinion. I don't like to hug, especially other men. I like my space. I prefer to be quiet, unless there is something which needs to be said, I don't feel the NEED to share.
It's assumed if you don't share, you're somehow broken.
I've had many female bosses, and I've worked well under all of them (well, all but one). I'm actually pretty easy to work with. But for some bizarre reason, the current crop of women coming into management (with their multiple women's groups and Betsy Magness Leadership certifications) feel THEY KNOW what is missing from the workplace, and men are the problem which requires fixing.
Yeah, I'm playing the game. It's pretty damn stupid if you ask me, but it has to be played.
But there's no question Joy's article hits the nail on the head. Both my fathers (step father and real father) were strong, silent types. Just because you're not showing your emotion doesn't mean it isn't there.
I'm a woman, and I don't like a lot of what goes on in the workplace today. My colleagues are workmates, not buds. And if it wish to keep my distance and not be all cuddly, that's because I am a person who prefers to keep my private affairs private. I'll be a professional and helpful colleague; just don't ask me spread my life out for your enjoyment.