We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
I think that the search for "soul mate" is misleading, especially in articles like this which consider the beginning of a relationship as colored by every Hollywood rom-com ever filmed instead of what works in the long haul.
A search the ideal person to fit "me" focuses too much on "my" needs, when the key to long term success in a marriage means that "I" must be often engaged in her needs, and often primarily so (i.e., servant leadership). In other words, can I love this person who could be my spouse even on the inevitable days when I don't like her? Note there is also a difference between a "happy" and a "satisfying" life.
I think it's important for two people to have the same Imagination in order to have a wonderful marriage. I never thought about it till I had been married for upwards of 20 years, but... Y'all can laugh about the same things, be able to talk about the future even if you don't agree (or can't yet see) HOW, it's easier if you can both imagine WHAT. We don't like the same books, or hobbies, - that doesn't matter - but we have the same imagination where our Faith is concerned, and that's Vital! Sigh! of contentment.... Susan Lee
Be open to love and marry someone you love. It may be important that you have the same interests or other qualities but how could anything be more important then being in love with the one you choose to marry? Some people do indeed go shopping for a spouse with a list of qualifications and make their decision based on these things alone.
Passions are a good thing and grand passions are grand things. Don't be afraid of passions.