We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
I suppose I really know very little about actually using drugs. I have never taken illegal drugs and to quote Clinton I never inhaled. Born too early to get into drugs or too fond of my health or perhaps not the addicitve type, I don't know. But lucky indeed to never have used drugs. When discussing drugs with those who did use it my incredulous "why would you" was usually answered with some reference to sex. That is it made sex incredible or easier to get or larger groups (then just two people) or more often etc. Well, as I said I don't know but that's what the "experts" have told me. So I wonder is it feel good as in take the drugs and then just lay there in a drunken stupor/high or was it about sex or the promise of sex?
We do it, from government prompt, but it is not good practice to do so I think, lumping all illegal drugs together. As neither the drugs, nor the people involved in using them share a great many sensibilities. There are nuances aplenty.
And then, addicts are, as Dr. Bliss suggested, of a whole different nature. My Uncle, hemophiliac that he was, fifty years ago, became addicted to Demerol for a number of years. He confronted that addiction after a while and after a large amount of family drama.
Which... I was gone by then, he found something else, also legal, to relieve his pain. I'm sorry, I digressed.
The Demerol also made him feel good, as a crippled man, unable to participate in normal manly activities, such as WWII, of which he was the right age.
Pick a theme, or a drug, or a religion, or an ideology, or a profession, and there are addicts of it. As said, some are honest about it, some deflect. Feeling good about oneself is common to all I think.
There is no such thing as honesty in addiction. Is it being "honest" that one recognizes the truth but rejects it in favor of an immediate pleasurable reality? Is is being "honest" to be selfish and live a perversion of life while escaping the reality of life?
No - honesty requires trust, honesty requires that one doesn't lie, cheat or steal. Addicts don't trust and they certainly lie, cheat and steal to maintain their false reality.
I'm not a big 12 step guy, but step #1 is on the money. Finally being honest about the addiction has to come before any progress can be made. There is not honesty in active addiction, but there is never recovery without it.
Addiction ruins families. There is a point in life where you can no longer be selfish and must take on responsibilities. An addict is looking to be a perpetual child who does not have to take on the difficulties in life b/c he is too 'messed up' or 'can't cope.'
Too flippin' bad!
My life improved considerably when I realized that someone else's emotional problems were not MY problem. And I shouldn't have to feel bad for wanting to live life without someone else's dead weight dragging me down.
I think the only way to prevent addictions from ruin someone's life is to notice them early (teen years) and get that person counseling ASAP. Otherwise, I think it is nearly impossible to fix an addict.