We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Psychoanalytic theorists have been struggling with trauma theory since Freud first abandoned it when he realized that fantasy can have as large an impact on a person as can real things. He more or less discovered the realm of what we shrinks call "psychic reality."
My take on it all is that dramatic events of all sorts affect people, but that the impact depends on their pre-existing character structure. One person's horror can be another person's excitement.
I have never been able to understand most of that "self-psychology" stuff he talks about, but I do know that everybody is born defective in some ways, and that emotionally-traumatic events or circumstances, generally unavoidable if you live long enough, change people in all sorts of ways. Sometimes they are opportunities for growth and maturation, sometimes they are simply destructive. Often, the destruction leaves a permanent scar, if not an open wound.
It was not so easy to move on. I never completely got over it. You wouldn't know if I didn't tell you, though. No criticism.
In the link, the quotation from Stolorow includes: "Massive deconstruction of the absolutisms of everyday life exposes the inescapable contingency of existence on a universe that is random and unpredictable and in which no safety or continuity of being can be assured." The trauma disturbs these "absolutisms."
When I first encountered Buddhist psychological theory, I realized that its focus on the fact of constant change was in direct contrast with our Western notion that there are permanent characteristics of reality. I went back to the Western philosophical canon to figure out why our civilization is based on the notion of permanence, as opposed to Buddhist Japan and China, being based on constant change. It seems to have started with Plato and absolute truth, absolute reality. Once you accept the notion of constant change, then you are less likely to "believe" in absolutisms. Trauma then is less likely.