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Saturday, December 19. 2009
Women giving women a bad name - with eggnog
A piece via Memorandum launched my brief rant about the noisy, Leftist segment of the women's movement.
Regardless of the moral issues around abortion, I have no interest in paying for your abortion. None. Nor for your IVF, your tummy tuck, your massages, aromatherapy, chiropractic adjustments, your birth control pills, or your nose jobs. If an insurance plan doesn't cover such things, too bad. The claim that insurance which does not pay for non-therapeutic abortions "harms women" is insane.
Grow up and pay for your own damn abortions, ladies - and for anything else medically-related that you elect to do which is therefore "elective."
Equating "liberation from oppression" with "wanting free stuff" is pathetic and retrogressive, replacing the good husband ideal of the past with a new sort of husband in government. Next thing you know, these women will be demanding that we buy them cars so they can drive to work.
That's not pride and confidence. That is infantile, and consistent with the worst stereotype of the weak, ditzy, incompetent female.
I believe that a man needs his good woman just as a woman needs her good man.
The moral of the story is that "movements," like non-profits - having acomplished their major goals, need to keep finding new things to do to maintain and justify their existence - and their paychecks. It is not grown-up for women - or anyone of any of the 5 or 10 or whatever "genders" - to want things on my nickel.
My apologies for bothering our readers with this on a cheery and snowy Christmas weekend. Now that I have that off my chest, we are getting ready to dress up fancy to head off to make the rounds of some Christmas parties and open houses.
Bring on the mountains of snow and the gallons of eggnog and the groaning boards! Modern women enjoy trying to meet life's challenges of all sorts, including those of excess snow and excess eggnog and excess calorie-filled goodies, as did the women of my Mom's generation. Strong women, never victimized, oppressed, or asking for pity.
And God bless our lonely military wives and Moms during Christmas. A tough job, but they can do it and need no pity and ask for none. Same thing goes for the guys whose wives are in the service.
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yes! well said, Dr Joy! time for women to stand up and take responsibility for themselves and their bodies...abortions included.
Damn straight. All the women in this family know it and practice it.
Have fun. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Thank you for saying quite eloquently what many of us think.
Re the final sentence, it sure does apply to our friend whose son is in and out of the Middle East in full battle gear. Mostly with night scopes. Scared and proud - or proud and scared.
It's an absence of responsibility, a freedom FROM responsibility which has gotten us to this point. Too lazy to use the thousands of forms of birth control ? Hey, the taxpayers got ya covered.
"Regardless of the moral issues around abortion, I have no interest in paying for your abortion. None. Nor for your IVF, your tummy tuck, your massages, aromatherapy, chiropractic adjustments, your birth control pills, or your nose jobs. If an insurance plan doesn't cover such things, too bad. "
Exactly. All of these things are simply an absence of responsibility/discipline for self. These types of people don't deserve the freedoms which so many thousands have fought and died for. They're just Godless, selfish little wonders who create more Godless, selfish little wonders generation after generation. And government is more than happy to assume responsibility and power as a result of this generational nonsense.
Thank you so much for this blog. You are a voice of sanity, traditional values, morality, informed wisdom and common sense in a screwball world.
Dr. Joy ... I'm 110% with you on this one. You are a voice of sanity for us all. Speaking for the more senior members of this group, we would be deeply grateful if the Busybody Brigade would just get out of managing our bodies and our lives. We know that we're on a short clock. And we'll handle it if they'll just leave us alone, take their busy little fingers out of our pockets where we keep our carefully saved money, and let us keep the money and insurance we already have, instead of giving it to layabouts who never worked for it.
Thank you for your eloquent advocacy. Have a Merry Christmas. I'm sitting here worrying about 'the Mother of All Blizzards" hitting New England, but I know you guys are tough and knowledgeable about snow and ice. And I'm just mad enough to hope the snow in D.C. discommodes a lot of Congresscritters. Stay safe and warm, you Good Guys.
How I dreamed of equality: I never dreamed of lying, cheating, stealing, bullying and false charges against innocent men in order to get a job promotion. All of the above have become standard operation procedures: taught by puppet mistresses of the organizations of women's unadvertised but deadly "unions". They have helped to destroy America's education system and I am ashamed of them and what they believe they have a right to do to our daughters--all in the name of my "equality". I did not ask for this, nor did my mother or grandmother--both of whom supported themselves and their families while maintaining (financially) comfortable working class home environments. I think perhaps I see a light at the end of the tunnel America is beginning to understand that equality does not mean you get a job in a management position even if you have no experience, or not enough education. Nope that is not what equality means--and all the women who have devastated corporations with their leadership incompetence are beginning to have an impact and this wave is passing. We are now in such desperate situation that we understand we need the "BEST" in leadership roles--not just some spoiled whiny brat who thinks "it's my turn".
I agree with you Doctor. I lived through the 60's/70's equality schtick and now I have seen what the NOW organizations, the Steinem's have delivered and boy, where women sold a bill of goods. Taken for a ride big time. Do you think there is any possibility we will see the revival of the pioneer women? Or the women that set out for the new world and helped build it?
Thank you for the article. It demonstrates that many women only want to be taken care of, either by a man or The Man.
WOW... reading the article and then the comments... I thought I was the only one!!! It is good to see not only reasonable comments from a woman (I work in a field where women have gone off the deep end) but further, speaking about our (we women) taking care of ourselves and taking responsible for our own health and well being. Thank you, Sami
Thank you all for your comments.
I see I am not alone either. One never knows, when posting a piece like that.
Grim's place had some interesting posts about this recently -- the growing tendency to want the government to become an idealized Daddy/Husband. Personally, I like my husband and don't want to do without him, but if I did, I'd feel it was my duty to stand on my own two feet, not expect the American public to take the place in my private life that stereotypically helpless women were traditionally supposed to want. I can support myself, thanks.
What I see when perusing the leftist blogs is that to their minds "right" = "entitlement". I mean, if you don't have the money to afford to exercise a right, what good is having it? Now, people don't have the money to exercise a right because their race or class is discriminated against. Said discrimination is so strong that they have no hope of ever being able to overcome it and afford to exercise these rights. It is only justice that those classes - white males - should be taxed to the point that anyone can afford to exercise these rights.
Mind you, the rights they are talking about are things like a right to abortion, a right to healthcare, a right to housing, a right to a job - all things that are nowhere in the Constitution. Bring up rights like the right to a free press, the right to worship as you choose, the right to own and carry a gun - you know, rights that ARE guaranteed in the Constitution - and they are quite against you getting a dime to exercise them.
Exactly! and thanks for saying it out loud in mixed company. I made horrible decisions in my 20s b/c I believed so much of that stuff I heard in the 1970s as a young woman. Oh my goodness, the harm that deceitfulness has done women in their own minds and hearts, to the general population. I hoep we emerge from it sooner rather than later, its powerfully destructive and not wholly unrelated to the struggles us Yankees at Heart are having with thsi government of ours of late.