We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Read the article. Judging by the content, the scenarios that were cited, the couples did not see beyond the box when they married. A marriage is based on two people helping each other out in times of difficulty without resentment. How would those women feel if their spouses got sick and disabled to a point where they had to be the bread winners and take on 100% of the responsibilities? Would they throw in the towel and leave? In this day of age with people feeling they are entitled to everything and base relationships on materialism, they should not have entered into marriage, period. A person is not ready for marriage unless they are ready to give 100% of themselves without a mental ledger of debits and credits. Marriage is a selfless act. The word sacrifice does not enter into it.
Cilla Mitchell, Galveston Texas
The article presents anecdotal evidence and I will readily concede that money are problems are likely a leading cause of divorce. OTOH, how many couples, percentage wise, are able to weather this type of adversity? I am guessing it is more than those who just throw in the towel.
feeblemind ... But, if we go further back about money and divorce, the problem behind the problem is that our society believes in bringing up its children in a state of unjustifiable entitlement. We protect their egos by not letting them be wrong in school or at home and then having to pay the price for their mistakes. In an older, simpler world, if you made a mistake, like breaking the window of the house next door, you worked off your mistake in a remedy agreed upon by your parents and the householder next door. This was a real-life example of the real-life truth that actions have consequences.
Many young people approach marriage with the concept that they deserve the best just by being themselves. And, to them, marriage is role playing. And if the roles change, as they inevitably do in the real world, that they have a right to opt out.
What about those marriage vows, based on hundreds of years of real life living? Oh well, they're just 'emotional wallpaper.'