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Friday, November 6. 2009
I have been thinking about the wishes we have about ourselves, and about how we deal with our disappointments in ourselves and our perceived shortcomings.
Here are some of the things I have heard from people:
I wish I were...
The list could go on and on. It is not human to be too pleased with oneself unless one is delusional on some level. God, and our Moms, and Mr. Rogers might like us just as we are, but we generally do not.
Why would we? Love would not be as special, as miraculous, otherwise.
What would the world be like if we could all design ourselves - besides being filled with rich 6'3" guys with 3-foot johnsons and rich 5'6" skinny blondes with perfect - but generously so - boobs? All with 160 IQs and charming personalities.
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You beat me by a nano-second. Fine thoughts you have there.
" It is not human to be too pleased with oneself unless one is delusional on some level."
and this is the most troublesome thing bc if someone doesn't think they have any faults, then they won't work on them!
i'm having a bad day. i'm glad maggie's is here to cheer me up though!
I used to work in the aviation field with a gentleman (who retired before I did and was a navigator on Lancaster bombers in WW2) and he had a favourite expression (TIC of course...he was a very humble man)...
"I'm not perfect....perfection is a fault !!...(I have no faults)"
He has passed on and I think of him often. He was a class act.
Thanks for listening.
You,ve got me on that one, Dr Ruth, because I have no idea what that means. Hope you have a good weekend. I am off to do hand-to-hand combat with my father. He can still give me a tussle. :)
Madison Avenue would fold in on itself as products are sold to people who want to be as beautiful as those who model the goods. There would be no incentive to keep up with the Joneses because you have what they have. The cosmetic industry, close to the largest industry in the world, would collapse. The clothing industry would wither as many use clothing to counter not being beautiful. People wouldn't work as hard because they wouldn't feel the need to augment the former items they purchased to feel good about themselves, and those who continued to work hard wouldn't after a while because of the constant jealousy and fighting that would consume the work place. Marriages would fall apart as women left to go find Sean.
Wasn't that an episode of The Twilight Zone, where the mobster died and thought he was in heaven but soon realized it was hell?
Naomi Wolf, a militant feminist, wrote a book when she was just emerged from gaining her college degree back in the 1960s called The Beauty Myth. The book was uneven in execution but had some interesting ideas in it. She claimed, IIRC, that the males in our society were so adversely challenged by the aggressively feminist women who were achieving so much in the formerly male dominated society that the males got together,[ the fashion world CEOs and beauty industry CEOs anyway,] and raised the bar on beauty standards for wome., They required that the women be much thinner than the current standards allowed, or could even be achieved without anorexia, and that they should have much bigger breasts and thinner hips than was the current taste in beauty, making them look like young boys with bumps on top.
These evil menfolk figured that if they set the 'beauty bar' impossibly high, that the aggressive women would be distracted trying 'to achieve the unachievable' in standards of beauty and take their eyes off the ball in their male/female business competition, thus allowing the menfolk to re-assume their traditional position on top.. Business-wise, of course.
What's your opinion, guys?
The fashion world/beauty industry? Of course! They're full of gay men. No heterosexual man would want to make women less attractive, nor would they plot something like that because they would have no idea that women would fall for it. It defies man-logic.
Just like men who like to write about women, women who like to write about men think men think like women. And that goes double for the kind of 'men' who write for women about men. Wifey's Oprah magazine a while back had a story staring up at me in "the reading room" titled "Men would rather be impotent than bald", written by a 'man'...OK, I'm starting to confuse myself and the leg's starting to ache again...time to refill the rheumatism medicine....Mr. Jameson!...
I don't buy her thesis at all. It's too complicated. It's manipulating the physical body to achieve something incorporeal in society. How about just being smart and accepting women for their intellectual worth and integrity. Either that or someone needs to write a book about how men better lose their guts, shave their nether acres, get penis implants, and learn foreplay.
Turn about is fair play or something like that.
I think the 'feminist' movement did a greater diservice to the "Womens' " movement than any MALE could ever accomplish...what think ye Meta ?? !
I don't recognize a difference in the 'feminist' movement and the 'womens' movement, but I agree men could never have succeeded in being so destructive to our society's balance. In the end, though, it ushered in political correctness, and for that we all suffer in equal measure. Or misery..
You and me, KRW. When I do pour myself a tot, once in a very great while, it's always Jameson's. Sooo smooth. It's that third filtering, I think.
On top of that, I pretty much agree with you. The whole problem with the feminist movement is that at the very beginning the women decided that 'equal' meant 'the same.' Thus the feminists like Maureen Dowd, who is convinced that no man is as smart as she is, while actually a whole lot of men are much smarter. Silly woman.