We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
'Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit.'
Beg pardon, but this is phrased in a sexist way. I can't make a baby, but my sweetheart and I have cooperated in making our houses into homes, our smiles as invitations to each other's hearts, our groceries into meals. And both of us have tried to de-escalate the occasional crap we give each other rather than return it seventy fold. Any nurturing person will take your gift and return it many times over.
I like that one.
I do but ask that we all be considered on our merits and not our sexes. My sweetheart and I compete at offering each other compliments, though I have occasionally goofed and given her a bellyache when I meant something sweeter.
Nurturing is as manly as protecting the home. When we give life to the idea that men can't nurture and shouldn't try, we deprive men of something as valuable as adventure is to women.
'Love' --as in romantic love --is SUCH an evil word. It's an end point so it can't move, so it can't live, so it's death. For example, if friendship turns into love, that's enchanting, but if love turns into friendship, well there must be something wrong, you ruined love, degraded an ideal, why not just be real and fall into hate and zoom on into hell.
"Friendship often ends in love; love in friendship never."
I don't disagree with what you say about the romantic love. And I don't agree with the quotation now that I've had the experience of both sides of that equation as I am friends with all my former lovers. I don't think it's possible to have a close male friend and to morph into romance. That ruins the friendship. I'd rather have the friendship because romantic love doesn't last. That's scientifically proven, and if you don't believe the science, check around with all your married friends.
One thing I have learned - romance can screw up a marriage by disguising the fact that you really don't "like" the person. I know that sounds weird, but I believe it fully.
I also believe if you don't like/love yourself first, everything you attempt in romance, long-lived love will fail. So will marrying someone who does not love themselves. If you can't eliminate the 'needy' factor from either side of a relationship, it's doomed.
And now I am off to read a cheap bodice-ripper with a purple and pink shiny cover. It's a Natalie Nottingham Nairdoforth. So good!