We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Is dating for adults only? Dating may be obsolete for the horny, thoughtless kids who just want to get into bed right away to accommodate their raging hormones and to find their animal pleasures, but married people still date all the time to maintain their relationships. From the piece on modern "relationships" (h/t, Insty)
"Going out on a date is a sort of ironic, obsolete type of thing," says 25-year-old Elizabeth Welsh, who graduated from college in 2005 and now lives in Boston. She says that among her friends, dating is a joke. "Going out on a date to dinner and a movie? It's so cliche — isn't that funny?"
From the day my husband and I were married in 1971, we reserved Friday nights as Marriage Preservation Nights. We would go out to dinner, just the two of us, and have the leisure to talk and discuss what happened the past week in his job [Public Affairs at an oil company] and mine [free-lance writing words for money]. Without the distraction of home chores, like cooking, honey-do repairs, etc., there was a delicious sense of relaxation, helped along by some good wine, and gentle reminders of the charm and good manners of our mate and why we got married in the first place.
Of course, we got married in our 40s, so the "first fine careless rapture" and testosterone poisoning of our teen years were well behind us, along with the headlong rush to physical intimacy, although we of course did/do have that as a reward at the end of the day.
We still do this on Fridays. You probably noticed us some time or other. We're the two old folks at that little table -- the ones who are still speaking to each other.
Marianne, who is BACK, thanks to our wonderful computer guy who discovered our old router got fried by lightning and got me a replacement this morning.
Elizabeth's parents had to read that article. I hurt for them.
Assistant Village Idiot
I asked my daughter about dating in college, and she said no one calls it that and that most just 'hang out' at parties. I asked about the hooking up, and she said it happens but not as much as people seem to think. When a couple becomes a couple, they still 'hang out', but they go to movies and do all that we did on a date. I think it's more relaxed and that the younger generation, products of the 60% divorced boomers, just want to avoid anything that resembles the era many failed marriages. They are libertine in action and still traditional at heart... It is just that they are proceeding to the married state much more slowly and carefully. To us it looks bad, but to them freedom from what many of them grew up with is far more important.
Meta, jappy, Luther ... I thank you all, effusively, for your kind interest and help in getting Maggies back on my computer. [My husband thanks you effusively too, because he says I get really cranky when I can't get my Maggies fix.] We went out to dinner tonight to celebrate at a near-by restaurant. And thank you, Bird-Dog, Barrister and Gwynnie [she's a "farmer" too, isn't she?] for building and maintaining such a wonderful site, that's a constant refreshment to the eye and to the mind.