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Saturday, October 11. 2008

Forgiveness

Dalrymple discusses "False Apology Syndrome." He views it as "moral exhibitionism."

Norm begs to differ, says that social collectivities themselves have moral responsibilities.

Is an apology a request for forgiveness? Or is it just good manners? SC&A wonders whether the world needs more hate and less forgiveness and "tolerance."

The above are all reactions to essays in the periodical In Character, in their Forgiveness issue.

Posted by The Barrister in Religion, The Culture, "Culture," Pop Culture and Recreation at 10:43 | Comments (6) | Trackbacks (0)

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Goffman on what an apology is.http://home.att.net/~rhhardind/goffman.apology.txt
#1 Ron Hardin (Link) on 2008-10-11 11:01 (Reply)
An "apology" today is more along the lines of: "I'm sorry that you are so stupid and inattentive that you didn't understand what I meant." We've all had lots of that kind of apology over the years. What it does is turn the whole thing around to make it your fault. CAIR and other Muslim organizations specialize in this kind of non-apology.

By the way, CAIR lost its case against Mark Steyn and MacLean's magazine. So they're free to write and publish in Canada until the next time some organization gets a wild hair.

Dearie me. Free speech is becoming more expensive all the time.

Marianne
#2 Marianne Matthews on 2008-10-11 11:12 (Reply)
Content, context and kind are considerations for apologies; the purpose, politics and particulars are considerations as well. An apology can be used to manipulate and obfuscate or to heal and amend, so motives are issues, too. Apologies may be the result of coercion or attempts to mollify overweening demands.

Apologies should be accompanied by an appropriate amount of contrition and reasonable repentance. Unaccompanied, the confession is nothing but words, words, words. If a sin is commited the offender has an obligation to turn or burn--that is, show convincing sentiment and act accordingly or be embraced as an enemy on a sliding scale with weights of wrong doing.

All apologies are not all same thing. God grant us discernment.
#3 Jephnol (Link) on 2008-10-11 12:02 (Reply)
Good articles - especially Dalyrmple's noting of the destructive force of ever burgeoning tolerance.

I will accept an apology, but I reject completely someone forgiving me. Unless I ask, and I don't, who are they to forgive me?
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#4 Meta on 2008-10-11 12:18 (Reply)
I forgive you Meta.
#4.1 Jephnol (Link) on 2008-10-11 20:59 (Reply)
For what, Jephnol?
#5 Meta on 2008-10-12 11:48 (Reply)

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