Maggie's Farm

Yep. With my intimates, I expect us both to operate on the basis of caring, without keeping tabs or driving hard bargains. With strangers, I expect to keep things business-like, with rare exceptions for emergencies. Open-ended caring doesn't work with strangers. All that happens is that you exhaust yourself meeting the limitless and undefinable needs of strangers while neglecting your comprehensible, feasible duties to your intimates, not to mention neglecting the limited duties you've undertaken to the people in between in your more business-like transactions. "Sorry, honey, I couldn't raise you properly because I was too business feeding the starving in India." "Sorry, sir, I won't be able to deliver on that contract for the same reason." Charity is what to do with what we've got left over after we've satisfied our duties.

That's why socialism works pretty well under your roof but impoverishes and degrades countries that try to apply it society-wide.