We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
All female mammals have clitori and so are capable of orgasm with sufficient stimulation and arousal/excitement. I am not sure about other sorts of animals. The clitoris is a residual embryological penis with similar nerves.
Many sorts of mammals use sex recreationally. Monkeys (and apes like us), especially. A blast of oxytocin and various endorphins is a nice thing regardless of whether it is a part of bonding or just for fun. For non-humans - and most humans now, it is not purposeful reproduction but a simple biological urge like thirst. Hence masturbation in various forms in mammals including dogs.
It's a shame that so many female humans find orgasm so elusive or difficult to reach whether in an exciting new relationship or an old one. I have spoken with many women of all ages about this. (Yes, women in their 80s like sex.) While a lucky few are able to orgasm at the touch of a penis, most not. It depends on level of attraction and arousal - the psychological component; and stimulation - the biological component. Re the latter, I sometimes recommend vibrators. Why not?
Most (not all) female animals do not rely on the male for support. Since most non-sub-Saharan human females do or once did rely on mates they may have evolved differently in the world of reproductive schemes.
The author did not mention the sexual satisfaction some women get from destroying innocent men's careers, families, etc. I believe it has something to do with the primordial instinct to drive away other women, and also the men they don't want around the cave! :-) Still very satisfying to some!
My first wife loved sex but rarely had an orgasm. Until I learned to give her oral sex and our preferred position was 69. Doing that never failed to give her an orgasm which sometimes was so powerful she would almost pass out. I enjoyed the ability to please her and I often would do this before intercourse and after intercourse so she could have two great orgasms. After our divorce I dated a few women and without exception they all experienced great orgasms from oral sex. My experience from the man’s point of view is that women enjoyed intercourse but it wasn’t usually sufficient to bring them to orgasm, But they loved oral sex.
I think you may have missed the point. I beleive this discussion is about couples not about singles looking for love. All of those issues you mentioned have already been decided and now we are dealing with intimate choices. Just my view.