We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
... after 37 weeks of pandemic, too many American parents are too tapped out. Decades of research has definitively shown that the presence of a responsive caregiver, especially during early childhood, when the brain is extremely plastic, is the crucial ingredient in healthy development. This stable adult attention is exponentially more meaningful when children are growing up in persistent adversity: environments of neglect, abuse, deprivation, or poverty that medical and psychological professionals call “toxic stress.”
My father grew up in the UK and had to suffer through an economic depression as a kid resulting in an early end to his schooling, followed by his apprenticeship in a dockyard that was regularly bombed by the Luftwaffe - oh, and one night a German bomb also destroyed his house. Later in life, he pulled up stakes and immigrated to Canada to start all over again from scratch.
I think the big lockdown this time (big as in most states and for a longer period of time) is intended to crash the economy. Think about it; what if the economy crashes 6 months after Biden takes office? Sure they would still blame it on Trump but how much better would it be to crash it now while Trump is still president and Biden can be the rescuer. No! you say! Who would intentionally crash the economy especially after they won?
If they crash the economy and everyone is hurting then some drastic measure must be taken to correct it. And by now we are already preconditioned to drastic measures. I think it's brilliant! Evil, but brilliant!
I feel for the people in states with lock downs and aren't allowed to work. I have no idea what that's like as my life hasn't changed at all from this virus. My kids play outside with other kids everyday. They visit both grandmas. They spend the night at their aunt's with the cousins every couple weeks. I don't think we'd stop doing that if the mayor or governor said we weren't allowed. Seems weird to me.
The people in this article have one thing in common: they're all crazy. And it's not because of the virus. The virus has just exposed it.
This stable adult attention is exponentially more meaningful when children are growing up in persistent adversity: environments of neglect, abuse, deprivation, or poverty that medical and psychological professionals call “toxic stress.
For me, this is a really interesting statement. Where does persistent adversity come from? I would say that there are several sources. The first is the lack of education that High School students receive on Marriage, and Parenting, and Psychology. Right now, the kids are taught nothing, and then blamed for not knowing when they grow up. Toxic stress can often be the result of bad parenting, or adverse conditions. But usually, kids with kind, educated parents do well under any circumstances. You'll note that there aren't any educational classes on T.V. about how to raise a happy child. Washington D.C. wants everyone to be as miserable as possible. That way, they can "rescue" everyone with therapy.
I think that it depends on what the parents do. I sympathize with parents who both hold a job to support the family. But there is so much parents can teach children and ways they can use this time to improve the child's academic and social growth. MOST of what we need to learn is not (no longer) taught in schools. One simple example I can think of is for my two granddaughters under age 10 I took the time to create a playlist of music from classical composers. Most of their best known and most enjoyable music. I kept their interest by keeping it light (and bribing them with desert). There was a test, I wanted them to remember the names of at least one piece by each composer.
I also taught them about bank/checking/ATM accounts. I even used an old checkbook I had to teach them the proper way to make out a check. Again keeping the mood light and interesting.
For my 14 YO grandson who got some of the same things and some different things (older and a boy so different interest and needs), I created something that he was really interested in. That is about 80 videos and 20 or so PDF's that I put on a SD card for his tablet. All on camping/survival/foraging/etc. This is his interest area, he lives in the West in a sparsely populated mountainous area. Not only is this something that can bring him endless hours/days of enjoyment it may someday save his life.
Each of our grandkids get to make dinner most days when they stay with us. They love this. I typically pick the menu but they get to do the work and learn from it. Recently I even included 20 meals that you can make in a microwave with a single bowl. I even showed them how to walk into a grocery store and for a buck buy a decent lunch to go.
I also made a video with the two girls and me singing "In The Shallow". I admit I can't sing but the two girls did pretty good and this was one of their favorite things we have done.
Much more, too much more probably, but I do not understand why schools do not teach life skills and other things we all need to learn before we become adults.