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Tuesday, January 15. 2019

Gaslighting a spouse or partner


The term has expanded in its use from the original idea of one person making another person doubt their sanity.


In current usage, it refers to any relationship abuse that seeks to distort reality to include things as far as, I think, major deceptions or major lying which puts a partner in another reality. Of course, in any given situation, either one or both people might actually be crazy or half-crazy but that is not about gaslighting.


Regardless of the extent of the sadism, narcissism, or destructiveness involved, it's a real thing and it is evil: Gaslighting.

Posted by Dr. Joy Bliss in Psychology, and Dr. Bliss at 15:24 | Comments (10) | Trackbacks (0)

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Well of course it is evil, it may well be sociopathic. But I suspect now that it is labeled for what it is that the "victims" will begin making false claims to get even for real or imagined wrongs. I would argue that to do so is also sociopathic as well.
#1 OneGuy on 2019-01-15 18:18 (Reply)
Interesting website. Misogyny is listed but I couldn't find misandry, which appears to be the abuse du jour. The website's description of "survivor" only indicates "she."
That said I'm glad I'm not a woman: to be so weak, so abused, such a whimpering, simpering childlike helpless victim of EVERYTHING yet strong enough to be able to do everything better than men.
#2 Talnik on 2019-01-15 18:18 (Reply)
Some studies have shown that women are responsible for about 67% of domestic violence against their spouse/partner. Also more likely to kill their own children.
#2.1 Anon on 2019-01-15 19:21 (Reply)
Can you provide some links for those claims? Because the studies I’ve read state that 95% of people who are killed in domestic violence are women and children.
#2.1.1 Jv40 on 2019-01-16 09:29 (Reply)
Hate to break it to you, but those of us who are "real" women don't go that route. Actually, we are really grateful for the presence of strong men with whom we can be true partners, dividing the responsibilities of living a good life.
#2.2 Frances on 2019-01-15 21:14 (Reply)
You got it just right. Now, all we have to do is figure out a way to teach the younger generation a set of agreed upon ethics--you know like those you and I were taught in those out-of-date places called church! We have to step in and help them fill a void that they are not even aware of--more importantly we have to convince them what it meant to individually and quietly within themselves obey this "code". No recognition. No rewards. Just doing the right thing because it is right. I am not talking about getting the ideal solution to a problem. I am talking about each individual woman understanding that at some time in life she must choose to do "the right thing" without reward, or recognition. Got two generations of these kids who have no clue about a "moral code". All they have are the current political bumperstickers to call a "code".
#2.2.1 faculty wife on 2019-01-15 22:46 (Reply)
Thank you Francis.
#2.2.2 Talnik on 2019-01-16 10:00 (Reply)
oops, I mean Frances.
#2.2.3 Talnik on 2019-01-16 10:01 (Reply)
As I read the list, it sounded more and more like our government.
#3 Ron B Liebermann on 2019-01-15 22:08 (Reply)
That site is written to presume that the abuser is always male and the victim is always female.

Disgusting.
#4 David Cooke on 2019-01-16 00:29 (Reply)

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