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Friday, September 29. 2017

Yom Kippur: Forgiveness

A central theme in this Day Of Judgment, which begins tonight,  is the importance of seeking out forgiveness from those who we've harmed, and determining to set a better new course in our behavior. The flip side of this is whether the one who is harmed will be forgiving. If not, after several sincere attempts to obtain forgiveness, the duty is satisfied.  Yet, the one harmed will bear the burden of bitterness.  This video explains how to overcome that.




Posted by Bruce Kesler at 14:13 | Comments (2) | Trackbacks (0)

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There are complications, as those who have been in AA and have come to Step Nine know. Sometimes it will hurt a person one more time if you re-enter their lives, particularly in a romantic relationship or parenting relationship where someone else now sits in the role the offender once had.

I am curious what the rabbis have to say about such things. It must surely have come up over the centuries.
#1 Assistant Village Idiot (Link) on 2017-09-29 17:47 (Reply)
Here's one answer:
Sometimes you need time to let a wound heal. You also need time to consider how you would handle this in the future, so as not to hurt someone else. Once you've experienced real teshuva, the other person will be ready to listen. We're all connected.
(teshuva = return to godliness; behaving better)
http://www.chabad.org/holidays/JewishNewYear/template_cdo/aid/989859/jewish/Asking-Forgiveness.htm
#1.1 Bruce Kesler on 2017-09-29 21:33 (Reply)

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