We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
A central theme in this Day Of Judgment, which begins tonight, is the importance of seeking out forgiveness from those who we've harmed, and determining to set a better new course in our behavior. The flip side of this is whether the one who is harmed will be forgiving. If not, after several sincere attempts to obtain forgiveness, the duty is satisfied. Yet, the one harmed will bear the burden of bitterness. This video explains how to overcome that.
There are complications, as those who have been in AA and have come to Step Nine know. Sometimes it will hurt a person one more time if you re-enter their lives, particularly in a romantic relationship or parenting relationship where someone else now sits in the role the offender once had.
I am curious what the rabbis have to say about such things. It must surely have come up over the centuries.
Assistant Village Idiot
Here's one answer:
Sometimes you need time to let a wound heal. You also need time to consider how you would handle this in the future, so as not to hurt someone else. Once you've experienced real teshuva, the other person will be ready to listen. We're all connected.
(teshuva = return to godliness; behaving better)