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Thursday, August 10. 2017

Fear of rejection


Most people have at least some degree of this potentially life-damaging fear. Oftentimes, the fear is justified because it is likely that many people will not find us interesting, appealing, or worthy of relationship (boo-hoo), but sometimes our fear is indiscriminate. 


Faking confidence isn't a bad starting approach, but the real trick is to improve one's rejection tolerance and that can only be achieved by enduring rejection.



Posted by Dr. Joy Bliss in Psychology, and Dr. Bliss at 14:16 | Comments (2) | Trackbacks (0)

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OK, when I was a kid I feared rejection but now that I'm retired and enjoying life and travel I fear acceptance/inclusion. I find myself ignoring people in public so that they won't try to strike up a conversation because I got things to do. Life is good and I'm enjoying and no I don't want to hear about your drama or grand kids. I have even taken advantage of my age and acted as though I don't hear people who talk to me. Just keep walking and don't make eye contact, that's my motto.
#1 OneGuy on 2017-08-10 17:12 (Reply)
the real trick is to improve one's rejection tolerance and that can only be achieved by enduring rejection.

Yes.

Hebrew has no word for "irresponsible" - it's literally "lacking responsibility". Because the only way to become responsible is by having responsibilities put on you.

Similarly, "impatient" is literally "lacking patience". Because the only way to develop patience is to have your patience repeatedly tested.
#2 Ben David on 2017-08-11 06:17 (Reply)

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