Maggie's Farm

My friends love to say perception is reality.

I like to say that may be for you. But my job is to try and determine what reality is rather than fall victim to my perceptions of reality.


For example, I can believe that someone really likes me here at the office, because they are nice to me and always have good things to say about me, even through the grapevine. But if I see that same person treating others poorly and, by their actions, notice they are doing things (like taking credit for my work) which aren't exactly 'nice', then I need to rethink my view of them.

A person I worked with really liked one manager she worked for. He was always complimenting her, giving her good reviews, etc. She fell for it hook, line and sinker. One night, over drinks, as she was talking about how great that manager was, the rest of us simply asked "haven't you seen how he treats everyone else? At what point does the way he treat you become a singular thing? When do you recognize that he's not a very good manager except to you?"

We all have some level of psychosis. I agree that it's a question of what part of the spectrum we are on.

My therapist, after meeting with me three times, said "I think, technically, you could be classified as being on the spectrum of autism."

I replied, "I have four nephews on the spectrum, and I've always felt I've got a touch of Aspberger's. So it would be perfectly fine if that's how you want to classify me."

She said, "But if you understand that and are working on the areas where you know you have issues, then I can't really put you on the spectrum."

I just said it's up to her. Made absolutely no difference for me. She didn't tell me anything I didn't already know. Still hasn't.