We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Can male and female sex drives be compared in any useful or interesting ways? It's difficult to get honest data for studies, individuals vary widely, and there is no easy way to measure "sex drive" anyway. I am pretty much convinced that the average male is more affected by physical sexual pressures and sexual fantasies than the average female. Why do men, especially young men, masturbate so much even if they have a sexual partner? It is because they do not always have a willing partner at hand when the pressure mounts.
There are two things, really: An (interpersonal) "urge to merge," (ie desire/love/lust), and a more impersonal need for sexual release/relief/recreation (a longing in the loins). A few pieces on the topic:
All male animals are like that. The comments are amusing.
Males and females are sex objects, and most want to be that sometimes - plus sometimes, or often, more than that. In today's world, a bold woman has far more easy access to sexual experience than a bold guy.
Women have a sex drive, but it doesn't come on automatically. You have to be patient and let her turn off the other parts of her brain that are still 'on'...'what am I going to make for dinner tonight?' 'I have to remember to do the laundry.' 'I can't believe what Trump said today.' 'Junior's having trouble in algebra class.'
These are the thoughts that run through our heads and compete with sexual thoughts. Women can't just jump from doing the dishes to making out on the kitchen table in a split second. Sorry.
Warm up is very important. Then, yes, women are just as sexual as men.
Yes, in the short term, it should not be surprising that males would forego food for sex, after all, from an evolutionary standpoint, spreading your genes is job 1. (Males who did not do a good job of spreading their genes were quickly eliminated from future generations)
In mammals in general, females are only fertile at limited times, and the fertility is advertised by pheremones, behavior or display. When encountering a fertile female, it's only the males who respond quickly and enthusiastically (both to impress the female and chase off other males) that succeed, This is why males are tuned (by natural selection) to respond promptly to suitable females (that's what your ancestors did).
There is also the issue of scarcity. In reproduction a fertile uterus is scarce compare to sperm so the competition is primarily males competing for females. Humans, however have a second competition because the long, intensive, slow development of human young works much better when their are two parents contributing (unlike most mammals where the female handles virtually 100% of the job).
It initially puzzed Darwin, because human females also seem to compete over attracting males (hence beauty shops, fashion etc) unlike their mammal cousins. But this is also a scarcity issue: finding a male willing to mate is easy; finding one willing to be a reliable partner (as in marriage) is much harder, when it comes to reliability, it is the qualified males that are the scarce resource.
Man the animal behaves a lot like other animals:
basic instincts like see food, kill, eat; find female, mate. That's where the mating instinct kicks in, without any emotional baggage or morals. Survival of the fittest, so forth.
Man the social animal has a complex set of dynamics and mating is not near the top of the list. In fact, with the number of abortions being performed I can't say that man the animal is concerned about propagating the species. Morals get in there and some of those "Seven Deadly Sins" do too. This is where the comparison breaks down. There is no concept of murder in animals. Fight for turf, to mate, to get food, pretty basic.
Lifeboat morality, the Donner Party, slender manifestations of survival condemned by others in society. Let me ask you, wouldn't you?