Maggie's Farm

Re: firing au pairs and receptionists merely because some old goat can't control himself, all I can say is that the men in my family love and are faithful to their wives, father large families, and have been taught the virtues of discipline and self control all their lives. Despite often having very attractive female employees (who are on good terms with their wives).

How grossly unfair to fire a woman simply because you, the man, can't keep lust in check. While I agree with the principle (for both men and women) of fleeing temptation, and never underestimating the danger of becoming entranced by someone gorgeous, attentive, etc, I would try not to make someone else suffer because of my own problem. So if a guy has the hots for sexy 19 year olds, he shouldn't hire one as an au pair in the first place. But firing one after she has come all the way to your country to work for you?

As to the sexy receptionist? Middle aged men's ardor might cool if they realized that she isn't after your bod, but just wants to use sex to get ahead on the job. You may not mind being used, and may have no intention of helping her career, just remember that any connection is an essentially commercial one. Also, sleeping w secretaries can often lead to harassment suits when things go sour, so rather risky. That usually helps one behave in a more sane manner.