We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
A fine piece by a feisty woman of the world. A quote:
There are no grown-ups. We suspect this when we are younger, but can confirm it only once we are the ones writing books and attending parent-teacher conferences. Everyone is winging it, some just do it more confidently.
She's right about the winging it, but I believe the wings change.
Was it less than two decades ago that I learned this? It seems longer.
These lessons will seem naive soon enough. But however much we tell ourselves that the later lessons are the wiser ones, perhaps it is not so. Being tired and cynical with age is not necessarily discretion and calm. Perhpas we were wisest at 35, or 25. (But not 5. That irritating cliche should be guillotined.)
Though the thought does make me shudder.
Assistant Village Idiot
It turns out that I wasn’t supposed to spend my 20s frantically looking for a husband; I should have been building my career and enjoying my last gasp of freedom
Freedom from a husband, freedom from family, freedom from children, freedom from…. Well, I guess.
I think I first read “there are no adults” in Gide.
Tough to trust an article when the author blatantly gets it wrong in the first two paragraphs.
Anyway, I do think it's funny about making this stuff up. I remember being in the parking lot of a grocery store, and reaching to hold my kids' hands. In an instant flashback I remembered being the child and holding my mother's hand, and I wondered if I'd grown up at all.
Lots of times I think I'm just making it up as I go along. But give it a little thought and there is usually a bit of wisdom from experience or logic that accompanies my decisions.