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Thursday, June 19. 2014
The Majority of Stay-at-Home Dads Aren’t Staying Home to Care for the Family
What’s Wrong with Dating Older Men?
Why Audiences Hate Hard News—And Love Pretending Otherwise
Why is there a penis on this painting?
Polyamorists Come Out of the Closet - Amid increasing tolerance for non-traditional relationship, non-monogamy loses its stigma
John Kerry Discusses Whether Iraq is Aware of Global Warming
McArdle: D.C. Should Stop Coddling Tenants
Military Blimps Will Float In Maryland, Tracking Potential Threats
Postal Service Explores Sensors, Data Collection Via 'Vehicles, Mailboxes, Machines, Letter Carriers'
Students demand mandatory transgender class to right the wrongs of colonial America
ABC News Producer Can’t Decide Which Gender He/She Is; Both Of Them Get
Tony Abbott to ‘Forge Alliance’ to Counter Obama’s Efforts to Push Climate Change
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RE: What’s Wrong with Dating Older Men?
you talk about delusional ...
we are CEOs of companies, we run for office, compete in the Olympics, and do just about anything we want.....
But I can’t help but wonder if our focus on girl power has left today’s young men a bit displaced and in the dark, especially when it comes to their role with women. So is it really any wonder that today’s young women might want to go back to climbing the age ladder to find someone who’s past playing Halo with his roommates?
no, you're not a CEO and you'll never be the CEO of anything if you (1) call yourself a girl and (2) still know anyone playing Halo with his roommates.
Older men are often more intelligent, well read, and street smart—they’ve just been around longer. They can be a wealth of experience and advice
true, but you aren't any of those. meaning, you have nothing interesting to say, nothing worth listening to. you are not a padawan learner either.
you are here for one reason. so just be gone before dawn.
ah.. just can't stand that kind of pomposity. is worse than mine.
Wait a minute, there is new science on the dangers of salt. As in none, unless you have a specific condition.
The FDA are a bunch of science deniers.
Not to mention confused. They go after cheese aged on a board due to the risk of bacterial growth. It should be noted in a product that is a product of bacterial growth.
Now they are seeking to reduce the salt in food, salt which inhibits bacterial growth. Salt curing/preserving was the original strike in the human effort to share the wealth of summer into the cold reaches of winter. Not to mention bring fish back from the seas to feed the poor.
It's even worse then that. There is evidence that low salt as a result of intentionally cutting salt from your diet is deadly. It's just like the global warming scam; as evidence surfaces that it isn't true the advocates double down and try to push it down our throats even more. I wish they would spend this much time and energy cutting the budget and lowering taxes.
Your comments are spot on, JKB.
Besides my usual comments about these rules being all about exercising power and the bureaucrats' desire to always be looking for one more thing to regulate, perhaps in their twisted little minds this is a way to fight obesity? Maybe the thinking is that if people have to eat bland food they will eat less of it?
For those looking for something humorous, here is a collection of photos illustrating, "Crimes against design", where the creators couldn't see the forest for the trees.
Older men: "But I can’t help but wonder if our focus on girl power has left today’s young men a bit displaced and in the dark, especially when it comes to their role with women. " Just a "bit"? Maybe it's a whole lot. Me, I'm a two-time cradle robber. First wife 12.5 years younger, 2nd 11.5. I tell her if it doesn't work out, next one will be 10.5 (should I live so long).
Hard News: I see Buzzfeed lists click-bait as going viral, as if going viral is a good indicator.
Why is there a penis? So it can go viral, of course.
D.C. Apartments: The Iron Law of Unintended Consequences Strikes Again (and again, and again, for the fools never learn.)''
Gov. Dayton: Good Intentions pave... Good Intentions don't count (unless you're a Dem.)
AlGore: Yes, the ROLLING STONE is my go-to source for 100% guaranteed truthful news and opinion.
I would not say 'older men,' but 'men with goals and achievements.' It doesn't matter to me if the guy is 29 or 59, if he has seriously focused on his career and made smart life choices (i.e. saves money, lives outside of his parents' house, owns stuff, etc.) then he would be someone I'd consider dating.
If he has an hourly wage job with no interest in moving ahead, if he lives in his parents' basement (or 5 of his drinking buddies), if he spends all of his money on video games and bigger and bigger tvs, if he has less than $100 to his name....sorry not going for it.
A man needs to prove that he is mature, has plans to move up and out of where he is, and show he wants a permanent relationship....not a girl he can call on the phone when he is lonely.
Grow up, boys!
We dated then married in our early 20s. No career goals or smart life choices yet, no savings, and less than $100 unobligated for many years. That was 59 years and six kids ago. Of course it was the '50s when opportunity and optimism abounded - different times for sure.
Can I assume you weren't living with your parents, partying with a whole house of guys or sitting on your butt playing poker every night?
Maybe all those years ago having more than $20 to your name would suffice. ;-)
Salt. Via the comments at Moonbattery -
"Most studies showed no relationship between salt intake and any health outcome. Some seemed to indicate that more salt had a beneficial effect."
So, the CDC says even higher levels are OK, and a year later the FDA decides to cut down salt.
This is "common knowledge" even in the medical community, that cutting salt is beneficial. Which it often is, IF you ALREADY suffer hypertension. The same as that some people who took full-dose aspirin daily and developed bleeding ulcers got better after stopping aspirin, so it got blamed for decades - until someone found it was only a trigger for making H. Pylori infections worse, not a direct cause of ulcers
I think that young women with conservative values who hope to raise a traditional family, however talented and professionally accomplished themselves, have a terror of marrying someone who will become a stay at home dad, IE: leave the woman with all the bread winning responsibility as well as the household and kiddie stuff her nature inclines her to gladly do. This leads to exhaustion for the mother, and strains even the most loving matches.
I have rarely if ever seen a stay at home dad who does as much housework, family maintenance as women automatically do. This is why some women like older men who have proved that they can hold a job, are responsible, can delay gratification, and have had enough fun that they won't resent the temporary wingclipping on both parents of paying a lot of attention to young children (as some immature men and women do). Also, perhaps they find them more chivalrous? I married someone only 4 years older, but I valued the stability he had demonstrated in assorted things he'd done.
I'm sure there are admirable stay at home Dads but the ones I know are just long term unemployed. Their wives get fed up (sympathy lasts about 5 years max) but can't divorce them because in my state they'd have to pay alimony. Tho they do no housework or significant childcare. This is a major factor in why young, less educated middle class women in my state increasingly opt to have their kids out of wedlock, so as not to have to support a feckless partner forever. I bite my tongue to keep from saying, why have kids with someone who.isn't functional.
I'm not talking about the obvious reverses all of us long married types vowed to cherish our spouses thru...Anyone can have bad luck, a psycho boss, or be laid off. And a good wife gets a job to feed the kids if her spouse can't.
In the 1662 Solemnization of Holy Matrimony from the Book of Common Prayer, there is a charge that is timeless, that marriage was ordained mot just for kids and sex but also "for the mutual society, help and comfort that the one ought to have of the other, both in prosperity and adversity.". I know that I am not always a perfectly amiable or obedient wife, but my spouse and I have lived up to this charge of being helpmates. The medieval image of marriage (unpopular today) was of oxen ypked to the plow. Working together.
But long term role reversal that goes against the natural inclinations of each partner? Not good. Call me reactionary, but it can be very bad for a marriage to have the man at home too long. Imho. He gets depressed, and she gets resentful. The kids don't care, because kids dont care about household cleanliness or who's there when they come home from school.
Sure, kids may not care about household cleanliness, or who's there when they come home from school, but they are definitely affected by the interaction they have with their parents, if it's positive and uplifting, and caring. The home needs to function for the sake of the kids.