We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Too bad they stayed on this side of the ocean... I mean, no Helen Mirren. But yet, Dianne Keaton. I think Jeannette has it worked out, "lucky dip in the gene pool". Speaking of... Dr. Bliss gets a whimsy now and then, that's all.
Drinking and smoking.
I dated a woman, when I was much younger, who I began to realize drank too much. Thing is I NEVER saw her drink. One day I confronted her and she admitted it. I realized she drank too much because her hair was drying out and had split ends, yet she took great care in making it look good. It was a change that became evident to me after watching 2 of my good friends descend into alcoholism. I realized one of the first telltale signs was their hair turning brittle.
Smoking increases the lines on the fact, you can usually tell a aged smoker by the pinched look and creases from the muscle activity of drawing smoke. That, in addition to all the other physical detriments it brings along with it.
Is it any surprise that as Hollywood actors aged, years ago when smoking was prevalent, many didn't age well? Meanwhile, today, with smoking greatly reduced, they are aging considerably better.
What does it mean to us when when we say someone, male or female, has aged well? There is, I suppose, the obvious physical part but... but... There is something to be said for how people look, and behave, when they are comfortable with who they are regardless of their age. Aging gracefully is, to this old fart who is almost certainly failing at it, beautiful to see.
I can't bear the "Cat Woman" look of the plastic surgery devotees. Yuck! Or women (or men for that matter) who continue to dress themselves or, worse yet, use makeup, as if they were 30 years younger. People obviously well into their 60s or 70s with jet black hair - men and women. Please. There is a couple who uses the same grocery as I do - they are comical. And she manages to walk, if one can call it that, in heels bordering on stilleto. If it wasn't so amusing it would be, well, disgusting.
Good try. While most of these examples are extroardinary outliers, I found very few to be actually attractive to me a 52 yo. I'm not buying the meme of older attractive woman other than my mother, my wife and other close female friends and family.
My wife is 47 and still very attractive but if G forbid anything were to happen to her I would not look to replace her with another 47 yo. I would target 10-15 years younger than me at least. I am young looking, tall and very fit so should have decent opportunities in that age range. Sorry older ladies.
For a man looking for a prospective mate a woman is selected by her beauty/sexuality however that individual defines these attributes. For a woman beauty in a prospective mate is secondary or lower and her choice is based on the man's ability to support a family. This is an observation that I believe is generally true but no doubt has many exceptions.