We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
A blissful marriage is the stuff of teenage fantasy. Real life gets in the way of romance, and our unappealing traits become more evident over time. It's amazing how people put up with us.
The age-old institution remains, for us, a sacramental covenant, a secular contract, and a practical arrangement for building a good, decent, wholesome family life. Especially so in an era in which we, and our kids, all quickly move from home, and the extended family in the neighborhood is a thing of the remote past.
IQ is part of it. If you and a spouse each have average IQs of 100, the marriage should have an IQ of 200. If your judgement is mediocre, you can find a spouse with better judgement. If your social skills are weak, a spouse can help compensate. If your taste in decor stinks, your spouse might do better.
And unless you are very wealthy and can afford plenty of help, four hands can get more done in a few hours than can two.
It all just makes good sense as a life foundation, as something to try to build whatever one wants in life on top of. As much as I may even hate and abuse my spouse at times, my life would be lousy without him. At this point, I could not do it without my companion to rely on 100%. It is a permanent bond, as we vowed in the beginning. We put up with eachother's flaws, and benefit from eachother's strengths. We are loyal to eachother and to our life together, above all else. We even confide in eachother, which can be a bit sexy. Fantasy is fun.
The political Left is ambivalent about marriage. They like the idea of marriage to the State instead of to people, but they like gay marriage. Go figure. Historically, however, marriage did not strictly require monogamy despite the spoken vows in church, and allowed room for adventure. We do not do that because that was not our deal.
Sorry Doc, but your IQ summation doesn't work. If it did, I could have 10 employees each with an IQ of 25 and we could function quite well. A real world example would be our schools - what's the better choice, a larger class with a great teacher of smaller classes with crappy teachers?
You might be right, Mike, but I like to think that just as Mrs. Mudbug's intelligence compliments mine, mine compliments hers. In many ways it's "the rocks in her head fit the holes in mine" and I think (hope) we're both better off - in almost every way.
Crappy never works, Mike, although it made me consider the great job some of our not-for-profits do in their mission to work with those with lesser attributes to enjoy life to the best of their abilities.
A great teacher can handle any class size of more-or-less "average" IQ; the secret is "engaging" the student in the joy of learning. My first grade class had 45 students enrolled (six rows, eight desks in each row with room to separate those who picked on one another) and, as I recall, all were still around and doing well when I moved at the end of third grade. Great principal leading dedicated teachers to do the best job possible.
Doesn't the same apply to marriage, community and career? How much does lack of similar culture add to the divorce rate? Stick-to-it-ive-ness, as my grandmother would say.