We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
You know you are reaching true adulthood when you read articles about The Kids These Days and end up grimacing. We have posted about the hooking-up culture in the past, about "friends with benefits," and about how the youth are mating randomly and promiscuously like rabbits in the woods and yet are spared the reputational problem which would have occurred when I was 20.
Voyeurism is fun, but tacky. From what I see in life, which is quite a lot, it seems to me that these stories are the exception rather than the rule. From what I see, the average middle-class American girl avoids casual sexual encounters and wants to be treated respectfully if not lovingly. There is a bell curve, and the left tail of the curve is sociopathic.
So much for the girls. For the 20's guys, there is no doubt that it has gotten very easy to get lucky in the bars these days, if that is how one chooses to live. The modern trends of feminism are great for the guys: they get much more sex and sexual variety without committment, and the women make their own money. Unless you feel that relationships are a serious matter and that using others is a form of low life, that is.
In my opinion it is the left. Strong, biologically related families are the best defense against an overambitious state. (I don't want to be accused of being anti-adoption, but adoption today has gone far beyond the original legal arrangement where a child is legally adopted by an opposite sex couple).
My experience is the same as Dr. Bliss'. Even in liberal families, while the girls may have a series of boyfriends before marriage, hooking up is definitely frowned upon. Liberal fathers make the same statements about their daughters' potential boyfriends that I remember from the distant past. And most of the liberals I know are in traditional, intact marriages.
But the encouragement of the hookup culture from the media is persistent and obviously effective as more and more girls grow up without fathers to impose limits. It's a vicious circle, as more young men and women adopt this lifestyle it becomes more difficult to have a permanent and exclusive marriage.
The goal of the left is to eliminate marriage. Same sex marriage is just a step along the way as the leaders of leftist thinking have already moved beyond it. See beyondmarriage.org where the agenda is laid out pretty clearly by academics from leading institutions and their social activist partners. Partners in the old sense of the term - or perhaps not.
Refreshingly, I witnessed a young man ask out a young woman on a first date at a coffee place in a small town. To a movie. Sounds very traditional to me. I do think this is still the norm.
Most kids (girls in particular) are not so sexually carefree as this article implies. There will always be the 'loose' type of girl...you just see them more these days b/c there is no real stigma anymore to sleeping around. But despite the plethora of information out there and the 'acceptance' of multiple sexual partners, a teen or young person still needs to get to the comfort level of acting on those impulses.
As a mother to 3 in their 20's, i sometimes worry about the opposite problem. Kids are so satisfied w/ the internet that they don't see all that sexually interested in real life romance, to my eyes.
I think we need to be careful to separate the media hype ("Girls," all articles in the NY Times) from reality. Yes, the left pushes it, becuase they want to destroy the family. I'm not sure that the reality is what they say.
As a child of the 60's: there was a lot of promiscuous sex then, and most of us grew up and got married and stayed faithful.
I think you have it backwards, just as the anti-gay-marriage people do. Neither casual sex nor gay marriage causes people to abandon traditional marriage. Rather, innovation of new life arrangements takes place because so many people who would once have gone for traditional marriage find it no longer satisfies their needs.
Granted, casual sex is here to stay. It is simply common sense now that reliable contraception exists. Religion will have to come around and accept it, or fall by the wayside.
But the big reason marriage is declining is that feminist laws now allow women to get all the benefits of marriage without any of the costs. Marry some guy for a year or two (or just sleep with him after falsely saying you're on the pill), have a child or two, then leave. You get most of his property, plus ongoing support, with no liability for the fraud. If he argues, baselessly accuse him of domestic violence, rape, or child abuse; again you get everything, plus he loses his freedom and his career and ends up homeless. No need for proof, and no liability even if a court figures it out and fails to convict him.
Under those circumstances no self-respecting guy would dare have anything to do with women without having himself sterilized first. This of course is why 40% of US births are now to single welfare moms.