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Sunday, January 12. 2014

Caring for your introvert

Samizdata found this gem by Rauch in The Atlantic. A couple of quotes:



"Introverts may be common, but they are also among the most misunderstood and aggrieved groups in America, possibly the world."



and



"Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice? "



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Posted by Dr. Joy Bliss in Psychology, and Dr. Bliss, The Culture, "Culture," Pop Culture and Recreation at 13:35 | Comments (6) | Trackbacks (0)

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That must be me.
#1 West Slope Engineer on 2014-01-12 17:25 (Reply)
Who is more normal or well adjusted an introvert or an extrovert? Is there only introverts and extroverts or are they really all simply somewhere on the same scale and the label is subjective? After all wouldn't a flaming extrovert see other extroverts as introverts? Is one "normal" and the other "abnormal"? Which one? Why not the other one? Why not both or neither?
#2 GoneWithTheWind on 2014-01-12 17:41 (Reply)
Great article. I especially liked the paragraph that discussed how hard it must be to be an introverted woman. As an introverted person who has learned to be more outgoing as I get older, it was incredibly painful in my youth to be misunderstood as 'haughty' or 'stuck-up.' I hardly dated until I reached my early 20s because of my shyness.

The funniest part is my sister is a big time extravert and doesn't get that it is incredibly draining to spend a lot of time with her. She talks and talks and talks and talks with barely a moment to breathe. She doesn't seem to understand that when I have a magazine or newspaper in my hand and a cup of coffee that I'm enjoying the quiet! She feels like I must be lonely or bored and need some conversation.

I wish modern politics would be more open to accepting introverts. We don't like attention on ourselves and are more apt to actually want to solve a problem than show off for the limelight.
#3 MissT on 2014-01-12 19:19 (Reply)
I (an introvert) married an acute extrovert. You can probably guess how that ended. Not all was lost, I share two fantastic kids with her.
#4 Hoss on 2014-01-12 22:24 (Reply)
Understatement of the century! "Female introverts, I suspect, must suffer especially."

Only problem with introverts is extroverts trying to change them.
#5 L.B. on 2014-01-13 18:33 (Reply)
Good stuff in this 2003 column! The columns in the sidebar are very good, too. The links there don't work for me. Try these links:

Feb 2006: Introverts of the World, Unite!
[url] http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2006/02/introverts-of-the-world-unite/304646/ [/url]

Apr 2006: The Introversy Continues
[url] http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2006/04/the-introversy-continues/304845/ [/url]

Engineers joke (I was one): What's the difference between an extroverted engineer and an introverted engineer? An extroverted engineer will look at your shoes when s/he talks to you.

No longer an engineer, but still introverted. Thanks for posting this column.
#6 George Putnam on 2014-01-13 21:07 (Reply)

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