We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Something my 80+ y.o. mother observed about her grandson and granddaughter in law. See the boy was doing the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, the child care all the while his 'wife' was "taking a nap". This lasted about 6 years until she decided to take off with a different drummer and divorced him. So "doing the dishes" is not a panacea to happy marriages. I am sure that 'happy marriage' can be distilled down to a single "do this" item. Marriage is a complex interwoven state of existence and what worked for BD's dad certainly would not have worked in mine.
Obviously not married to my wife. I thought I was being helpful in loading the dishwasher (first month of marriage) when my wife argued I was 'not doing it right'. Several incidents of that criticism made me just say fine, do it yourself. Oh, and we are still married 32+ years later. rather than stand and argue, I have learned how to say do it yourself, then keep my mouth shut until she asks for help. Marriage psychology 101, learn to zip the lip.