We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
Somehow this link was forwarded to me for comment. It makes the highly newsworthy and earth-shattering point that Christians are a lusty crew.
50% of Christian men are addicted to porn, it says. (What they did not discover is that 99% of Christian men are addicted to sex, and require it on a regular, if not twice-daily, basis.)
What bugs me about the piece is that it implies that Christians ought to be pure from sexual desire and interest - or at least from non-marital desire. That very idea is nuts, but I do know from whence it comes: it comes from a thread running through Protestantism (and Roman Catholicism, before that), that our desirous and loving hearts should be fixed on God and His Kingdom, not earthly delights.
Of course, fantasy and action are entirely different things. Porn, like art, books, etc., is just assisted fantasy. Adults, Christian or otherwise, are expected by others to regulate their behavior, but whether and how they regulate their fantasy life is their own, personal decision.
The use of the word "addiction" is peculiar. I think, for an interest that is so hard-wired. Do guys have an "addiction" to staring at gals' breasts?They do tell me that they can't help it, so I never show cleavage at work.
I wrote a piece on internet porn a while ago (porn is the #1 use of the internets). I have looked at a bit of it, and have been struck by the generous anatomy of the fellows who do this, but it's not my cup of tea, and I find it undignified and sleazy as hell, but I think it's fairly harmless. However, when any person's behavior is compulsive - whether it's porn, or blogging, or watching TV, or computer games, or anything - it's usually an escape from something, or from some emotion. Therefore, what is interesting to a shrink is not the object of the compulsion as much as the question of what is being avoided.
I am obviously not a pastor, but I say that there is room for both earthly and spiritual delights in this life. As animals with a divine spark, we must pursue both as best we can, while ordering, regulating and directing our life as it is - as it has been given to us - as best we can.
Note: That is not me. Our lusty Christian Editor added the charming photo - not for pleasure, of course, but only to get attention.
Intimidating picture for those of us church mice who think there's nothing wrong in principal with sex, but whose experience has been inhibited. I'd gladly trade two Ivy degrees to look like that!
I agree with the message of enough already. Why shouldn't Christian men love sex, and porn if they must?!
But the business of compulsion is the problem. Not staring at gorgeous females (I discreetly eye every handsome man that walks by), but the kind of addictive, avoidant-of-life behavior. I know the language of addiction has been overused, but the joylessness, drivenness, need for increasing quantities, moments of sick self-loathing, loss of pleasure in more constructive activities are all present in the obsession with porn.
Easy for me to say, of course, as none of that stuff does a thing for me. A real, live, intelligent, chivalrous, tall WASP on a church project with me gets my blood going more than some Mandingo type inflated on the computer screen...
roger de hauteville
Given that the sacrament of marriage isn't complete unless the marriage is consummated, sex seems to be a requirement of a good Christian life, as directed by God. (I'm not a Christian BTW, but this belief I'm more than happy to go along with.)